Honestly, would you date someone if they told you they had genital herpes?!
Question: Honestly, would you date someone if they told you they had genital herpes.?
I don't have genital herpes but I'm just curious how many of you would really date someone (or continue dating someone) after they told you they had herpes.
I know people with genital herpes aren't lepers but I just find it surprising and almost fascinating that people with it seem to downplay it's contagiousness even more lately. Especially in yahoo answers, there's always someone with herpes giving a blanket answer to a concerned question.
And please spare me the "if you really love him/her then you shouldn't mind or care" I mean seriously, what kind of answer is that.? So dating someone with herpes should measure up or be pressured to the seriousness of love.? That's wrong.Health Question & Answer
I know people with genital herpes aren't lepers but I just find it surprising and almost fascinating that people with it seem to downplay it's contagiousness even more lately. Especially in yahoo answers, there's always someone with herpes giving a blanket answer to a concerned question.
And please spare me the "if you really love him/her then you shouldn't mind or care" I mean seriously, what kind of answer is that.? So dating someone with herpes should measure up or be pressured to the seriousness of love.? That's wrong.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Honestly, no. That's how these things spread around.Health Question & Answer
I would have no problem dating them. These days though, dating always means sex, and there is no way I would have sex with him. There are many medications, but if he had the guts to tell me he had it, and he knew how much of a nuisance it is, I would have to say no to any intimate relationship. Even during periods of time when symptoms aren't apparent, it is contagious.Health Question & Answer
I really like your honesty. :)
I think I would still date the guy, herpes or no herpes. I would also remind him to get it checked out, purchase a prescription, clean THOROUGHLY every day, and suchlike, before I put myself within a few inches of him. I would do such a thing anyway, of course. I don't care to date anyone who is unhygenic or unwilling to stay healthy.
If he didn't agree with me....tough. On him, that is. He'd have minus one girlfriend.Health Question & Answer
I think I would still date the guy, herpes or no herpes. I would also remind him to get it checked out, purchase a prescription, clean THOROUGHLY every day, and suchlike, before I put myself within a few inches of him. I would do such a thing anyway, of course. I don't care to date anyone who is unhygenic or unwilling to stay healthy.
If he didn't agree with me....tough. On him, that is. He'd have minus one girlfriend.Health Question & Answer
i got it from my wife when we were teens, but we are merried and have 2 children. its not that bad of a disease its jus the stigma behind it and the un informed people. chances are you already have herpes but u have no symptoms sum people never do.Health Question & Answer
Unless your really into him, and if he's really worth
and you know he'll treat you right, then don't do it.
And plus if your sexually active, and your looking for a physical kind of relationship, this guy obviously isnt the one.Health Question & Answer
and you know he'll treat you right, then don't do it.
And plus if your sexually active, and your looking for a physical kind of relationship, this guy obviously isnt the one.Health Question & Answer
there is no hiding that sex is a big part of relationships so sorry now but i seriously no i wouldnt unless he can have sex and use a condow then i suppose it is ok im not being a average guy sex is really important reallyHealth Question & Answer
Nobody wants to get an STD. If you are infected with an STD then you must tell your partner. If he or she loves you for who you are then that person will stay with you.Health Question & Answer
You can go on a date with someone and not sleep with them. Of course I would.Health Question & Answer
Herpes doesn't go away once you have it
It can lie quiet, but then there will be times it pops up.
You will have to go on Valtrex for the rest of your life probablyHealth Question & Answer
It can lie quiet, but then there will be times it pops up.
You will have to go on Valtrex for the rest of your life probablyHealth Question & Answer
no, because if i date someone i wanna screw them without the cahnce of getting an std.
but if they were super sexy than mabey...Health Question & Answer
but if they were super sexy than mabey...Health Question & Answer
I wouldn't. I wouldn't date anybody that had any type of STD.Health Question & Answer
nopeeeeHealth Question & Answer
HI
I agree with A. I might date them but I would not have sex
with them
SteveHealth Question & Answer
I agree with A. I might date them but I would not have sex
with them
SteveHealth Question & Answer
i couldnt see going very far with that person, but i might be able to date them.Health Question & Answer
I'd date them but I wouldn't have sex with themHealth Question & Answer
if i had herpes too i wouldnt mind but as for now i wouldntHealth Question & Answer
hahaha....probably not, and youre not a b for saying noHealth Question & Answer
noHealth Question & Answer
no i wouldnt, sorryHealth Question & Answer
i would.
it doesn't matter what they have.Health Question & Answer
it doesn't matter what they have.Health Question & Answer
Their behavior is the bottom line. Look at these similar alternatives:
My partner said they've had unprotected sex more than once in the past,
My partner said they get drunk when they drink alcohol,
My partner says they have antisocial disorder,
My partner says it's ok to hit their partner,
My partner says they smoke cigarettes.
Each of these are activities that put the other partner at risk. Some of these the effect to their partner is less and some will have a direct effect on the partner. Past unprotected sex with anyone has an effect on any future sex partners. A current alcohol problem will directly affect current and future EVERYTHING. Looking at all the statistics that show the negative effects of alcohol socially, in mental health and the economy. An antisocial or any other mental illness (10% of folks have mental health issues) can have as much effect as the person or partner lets it and with anyone, depending on the gravity of the issue, they must be handled. Domestic violence affects not only the partner, but the future children, as well as any partner. DV is difficult to get out of once in it. And 2nd hand cigarette smoke.?
So with the genital herpes question: this is an unfortunate affliction that does not go away as I am sure you are aware. It is always there and whether you get it or not depends on how protected you are as in condoms and oral dams (a physical barrier). The question is at that point of deciding to have children is where the love factor comes in. You cant use protection when working to have kids. So, trust, forgiveness...must be there because the risk is highest when choosing to have children. There is some risk of the child contracting herpes when they come out and, as such, there is some protection the doctor will provide if discussed beforehand.
So, if the partner with herpes is not responsible then it's not good. Males are notorious for not wanting to use a condom. Intoxicated people are notorious for not using protection. A discussion about using protection always "jiggles" or disrupts the flow of an intimate experience. But if either partner has herpes it's best to discuss it beforehand. That a person brought it up before sex has done so to their credit. Socially, fear a common reaction to any disclosure of disease, illness, mental illness, legal issues...and it's a normal reaction. People who disclose take a step back in the relationship building process because of the fearful reaction. Socially, it's difficult to disclose.
Herpes is very, very common. Whether it expresses itself is another issue. Many times it is there, just like chlamydia, the cold, anything else. Whether you see it or whether it is disclosed has many factors.
Building the relationship is how this issue becomes easier to take care of. Unfortunately, sex as casual as it is, peer pressure and the difficulty of making time to create relationships, makes doing the healthy thing harder to do. Educating yourself protects you. Doing the right thing is where it's hard.Health Question & Answer
My partner said they've had unprotected sex more than once in the past,
My partner said they get drunk when they drink alcohol,
My partner says they have antisocial disorder,
My partner says it's ok to hit their partner,
My partner says they smoke cigarettes.
Each of these are activities that put the other partner at risk. Some of these the effect to their partner is less and some will have a direct effect on the partner. Past unprotected sex with anyone has an effect on any future sex partners. A current alcohol problem will directly affect current and future EVERYTHING. Looking at all the statistics that show the negative effects of alcohol socially, in mental health and the economy. An antisocial or any other mental illness (10% of folks have mental health issues) can have as much effect as the person or partner lets it and with anyone, depending on the gravity of the issue, they must be handled. Domestic violence affects not only the partner, but the future children, as well as any partner. DV is difficult to get out of once in it. And 2nd hand cigarette smoke.?
So with the genital herpes question: this is an unfortunate affliction that does not go away as I am sure you are aware. It is always there and whether you get it or not depends on how protected you are as in condoms and oral dams (a physical barrier). The question is at that point of deciding to have children is where the love factor comes in. You cant use protection when working to have kids. So, trust, forgiveness...must be there because the risk is highest when choosing to have children. There is some risk of the child contracting herpes when they come out and, as such, there is some protection the doctor will provide if discussed beforehand.
So, if the partner with herpes is not responsible then it's not good. Males are notorious for not wanting to use a condom. Intoxicated people are notorious for not using protection. A discussion about using protection always "jiggles" or disrupts the flow of an intimate experience. But if either partner has herpes it's best to discuss it beforehand. That a person brought it up before sex has done so to their credit. Socially, fear a common reaction to any disclosure of disease, illness, mental illness, legal issues...and it's a normal reaction. People who disclose take a step back in the relationship building process because of the fearful reaction. Socially, it's difficult to disclose.
Herpes is very, very common. Whether it expresses itself is another issue. Many times it is there, just like chlamydia, the cold, anything else. Whether you see it or whether it is disclosed has many factors.
Building the relationship is how this issue becomes easier to take care of. Unfortunately, sex as casual as it is, peer pressure and the difficulty of making time to create relationships, makes doing the healthy thing harder to do. Educating yourself protects you. Doing the right thing is where it's hard.Health Question & Answer