Unprotected sex and new girlfriend?!


Question: Unprotected sex and new girlfriend.?
Short version, I had unprotected sex with a girl who I think is promiscuous about 3 months ago. I met a girl 2 weeks ago and we decided to be exclusive to each other and are falling deeply in love. I have never felt this strong about anyone before in my life of 39 years. We have not had intercourse yet but we have touched each other everywhere possible to touch but no oral sex or intercourse yet. My question is since I do not want to have intercourse with her until I know for sure that I am not infected with HIV or an STD how can I tell her that I did something that stupid without scaring her away.? If she touches me and gets pre-seminal fluid on her hand can she get infected with say HIV if I am.?Health Question & Answer


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The fact that you're even worrying about it is a good sign: just tell her straight out that you had unprotected sex and that because of your respect for her and your feelings for her, you'd rather hold off on doing anything until you had been tested. It's actually probably best for you both to get tested. It's a good thing to do at the start of a new relationship.

And don't use an 'excuse'. Just tell her the truth. It's a REASON, not an excuse. You're showing a far more responsible and admirable approach in getting tested than you would be if you just chose not to say anything: if she's got any sense, she'll recognise that. When you tell her, just frame it in terms of wanting to look out for her. In addition, the majority of STIs show symptoms in men: if you're not showing any symptoms yet, it's likely you're in the clear (though not definite). Tell her it's a precaution, but that you're not willing to take any risks that may harm her health.

As for the likelihood of her having contracted anything from you already - chances are very slim.Health Question & Answer

Well if you are worried about scaring her..
just go get tested.. and postpone sex until afterwards.. no need to scare the **** out of her for no reason..
I say this from a females perspective.. my guy was totally honest and told me about girls he slept with.. and his last gf who was REALLY PROMISCUOUS which is why they aren't together now, but it kinda turned me off.. im glad he told me.. but sometimes i wish i didnt know...Health Question & Answer

Well you should FIRST go to the dr. and get blood work done..if you're clean, then you don't have to worry about telling her anything! But be sure first, because you tell her anything. In the meantime, if you do want to have intercourse with her before you go to the dr, use protection.Health Question & Answer

Just be honest with her. She should respect the fact that you want to be tested first to avoid passing anything on to her. Has she been tested.? Suggest that you go to get tested together. No one should EVER be offended if their partner asks them to get tested.Health Question & Answer

How about just go get tested then if your negative you'll know and not have to worry about it. The only way she'd contact HIV from your body fluid is if she had a cut on her skin that is broken and was bleeding recently.Health Question & Answer



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