How to cope with a family member who has been diagnosed with cancer?!


Question: How to cope with a family member who has been diagnosed with cancer.?
My aunt who I am extremely close with was just diagnosed with cancer today. They found it in her mouth, and they're worried that it has spread into her throat and in her lungs. I have a very difficult time dealing with my emotions, and I usually let them get the best of me. Are there any ideas on how to cope with this.? The more I think about it - the more I don't want to eat, drink, etc. Is there something I could do that can take my mind off things.?

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Answers:
Destiny, My dear listen to me . Dr.s are nice people, and medicine is a business. If they found it in the mouth, they should know wether it is for sure in the throat,or lung. Sometimes you have to put your faith, strength, and all your hope for her in the LORD. What she has, with all the Cancer treatment Centers around the country, she is in really great hands. Always remember, what happens, or evolves from this, this date today was on her calander of life. She would never want you to worry about her, she still has complete control of her life, and her destiny, give her credit for that, and just keep reassuring her that you are always there for her, and for her to lean on you in her time of grief. When she wants to be alone, leave her alone, and give her ,..her space, and she will depend on your shoulder more, and more. I will say a pray for you and your aunt tonight,and not to worry, this date was on her calander along time ago, and it is there for a reason which should not challenged.
Good Luck Tweety,
The Old grandpaHealth Question & Answer

THE OLD GRANDPAHealth Question & Answer

for you i will say this fist cancer is not a death sentence they beat this stuff every day(im 26 and i was diagnosed with cancer at 21 they took care of it rather painlessly it wasn't fun but im ok) for hr you need to be supportive and strong we made a party out of my hospital room during my first chemo keep your head up you getting sick from emotion wont help her

instead of getting your mind off it get educated so you can help her threw it (like Euchrine makes a great lotion if she gets radiation)if she doesn't have insurance (i didn't) there may be a group that helps take care of the bills
STAY STRONG
good luck and all my best wishesHealth Question & Answer

im a surviverHealth Question & Answer

My sister just had cancer of the vulva removed 2 weeks ago. They said they got it all and she doesn't need chemo or radiation but, for weeks before that everyone was feeling the way you are, most of all her. The doctors were also worried that it had spread. You worrying now will only scare her more. And you don't even know what to worry about, if, at all. Although hard, be positive around her. If she sees this in you it will help her. Take care of yourself physically, she may need you and you won't be of any use if your sick. Good Luck.Health Question & Answer

I am a paramedicHealth Question & Answer

My mom has very advanced cancer, I know how you feel. Relax, Simply having cancer is not a death sentence, there are many many new treatments for cancer these days. Enjoy spending time with your aunt. Have fun, joke with her. Keep a positive attitude. There is no easy way of coping with a loved one having cancer, but like I said, it does not automatically mean she is dying. My best to you:)Health Question & Answer

my daughter goes to a macmillan councillor you can get info on line or yell, i got my daughter the form and she was seen within a couple of weeks, any member of my family can go even nieces sisters mum, etc hope your aunt is ok good luck xHealth Question & Answer

JesusHealth Question & Answer

When I was diagnosed with breast cancer 4 years ago, my sister, who also had cancer suggested keeping a journal. I did and it was great. I also helped my two children and husband in coping with their emotions while not over burdening each other with their own concerns. I still pull mine out on occassion and laugh at the doodles I did in it. I drew the cancer as a bug with a big humongous sledge hammer smashing it (Like the Raid commercials) I think there are also some tear stains in it but it really did help.

I think my family is riddled with cancer. My dad's parents and one of his brothers died from cancer. My dad and his other brother are survivors (colon and prostate) another of his sisters had breast cancer twice. My mom's dad died at the age of 42 from lymphoma and my cousin's daughter had kidney cancer when she was 3.Health Question & Answer



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