One of my friend's best friends just passed away from Anorexia...Help!?!
Question: One of my friend's best friends just passed away from Anorexia...Help!.?
This past week, my friend's best friend from another school was in the hospital. Her kidneys had failed, because she had Anorexia. She wasn't doing real well, and she only had a 14% chance of living. My friend really cared for her, and was at the hospital at any chance she could. She passed away this Saturday, early in the morning. My friend has taken this really hard. She is in so much shock and pain. I hate seeing her like this. I want to help...But I'm afraid that anything I say will cause her more pain! What should I do.?.?Health Question & Answer
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One thing you can do is learn about the grieving process. When someone suffers a loss, they go through predictable "stages" of grief, namely: shock, anger, denial, and acceptance. Knowing a bit about these stages can help you assess where your friend is in the grieving process and may guide you to say or do something that is helpful or appropriate. The important thing to understand is that the grieving process is not the same for everyone. Some people go back and forth through the stages...and some folks get stuck and are unable to move on (or process their feelings) for a long time. There is NO right way to travel along the road of grief.
Other than that...just be yourself. You are probably a good and trusted friend, so just be honest, open, and sincere. You friend may need a good listener or a shoulder to cry on...just be there and ask if there is anything special or specific you can do to help. When my cousin died (at a very young age), one of my close friends took me to the movies to see Mrs. Doubtfire, a great comedy starring Robin Williams. That helped me focus on something other than the sad fact of my relative's death. Sometimes, distraction from reality dislodges something and we come back with a different perspective that helps us move onward.
I would avoid saying things like "I know how you feel".
You will do fine because your sincerity and concern are evident because you are asking for help.
Best of luck to you and your friend. Have confidence in yourself and the fact that your friend will eventually process her feelings in a way that works for her.Health Question & Answer
Other than that...just be yourself. You are probably a good and trusted friend, so just be honest, open, and sincere. You friend may need a good listener or a shoulder to cry on...just be there and ask if there is anything special or specific you can do to help. When my cousin died (at a very young age), one of my close friends took me to the movies to see Mrs. Doubtfire, a great comedy starring Robin Williams. That helped me focus on something other than the sad fact of my relative's death. Sometimes, distraction from reality dislodges something and we come back with a different perspective that helps us move onward.
I would avoid saying things like "I know how you feel".
You will do fine because your sincerity and concern are evident because you are asking for help.
Best of luck to you and your friend. Have confidence in yourself and the fact that your friend will eventually process her feelings in a way that works for her.Health Question & Answer
My gf's dad passed away! I rushed to her side, and met her in the hospital parking lot as she was leaving the building. He's gone she said with tears in her eyes. I took her in my arms ( she felt so frail and helpless in my arms in that moment). Baby, I'm sorry, I said! And I grieved with her.
Share her feelings, and cry with her! And be there for your friend, as you have never ben there for anyone before! Health Question & Answer
Share her feelings, and cry with her! And be there for your friend, as you have never ben there for anyone before! Health Question & Answer
I don't know what to tell you, apart from that is really sad. It is sick how the media and pop culture insinuate that being skinny is "Beautiful". This may have been something different, unrelated to pop culture, but I feel for you and your friend. I have a couple anorexic friends and I get sad everytime I see them.
I am sorry for your loss.
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I am sorry for your loss.
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Awww thats really sad :[ Im sorry about that. I think you should not talk about it in front of her but don't stop her from venting her feelings. Death is a very sad experience for the people you love but it comes for everyone so make the best of life and let your friend vent her feelings to you. Health Question & Answer
well ive learn so yu dont say the rite thing (ive lost a friend be4) to just listen sometimes thats wat friends want is someone to just listen there not always looking for advice or anything else. just for someone to listen and understand them. :]
sorry for your guys lose. and i hope this helps. let me know. :]Health Question & Answer
sorry for your guys lose. and i hope this helps. let me know. :]Health Question & Answer
Ask yourself is there anything you can really do now.? Just be the friend you are, hug her and tell her everything's gonna be ok, even if it doesn't.Health Question & Answer
thats so bad
maybe try to go to movies or shopping
till her that ur worried about her or dont like to see her sad
goodluck
dont mention her friend or anything about AnorexiaHealth Question & Answer
maybe try to go to movies or shopping
till her that ur worried about her or dont like to see her sad
goodluck
dont mention her friend or anything about AnorexiaHealth Question & Answer
i'm sorry. make sure she is not suicidal or hurting herself. if she is, you need to tell her parents. no matter what!!Health Question & Answer