A Cry For Help - who can help me be me?!
Question: A Cry For Help - who can help me be me.?
Where do I start.? I've tried so hard all my life to put on weight as I am rediculously skinny. People presume that I have anorexia or bulemia with are not nor ever have been the problem. Its been put down to genetics wich at first I swallowed and thought I didn't need to be bigger because nature says its not my design. But not long after I just looked at pictures of myself and almost every day I cry. I want to look and feel better but i'm actually fdinding it hard to eat anything in much quantity. So the silly notion of people thinking I have an eating disorder actually fuels their lust for pointing out that I don't eat much. I try so hard that every meal I think to myself that I MUST eat this food or I'll never look or feel like I deserve. Sometimes I tell myself i'll DIE if I don't eat this one meal...every last drop. I've seen a few doctors but because I don't have the "attitude" of that someone with an eating disorder (eg: they feel fat when they're obviously not..or...they stive to have stick thin bodies and are constantly dieting or throwing up.) They can't be bothered to do something about it.
I have NEVER made myself sick. I HATE the way I am and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
i couldn't feel any more alien and alone to this planet. So many times I pick myself up and brave anything thrown at me but that doesn;t make me happy. I want a body. I don;t even mind being very fat. At least i'd fit in with the majority cos lets face it, big people are more uinderstood and let alone than the skinny rakes that I catagorise in.
In desperate attempts for someone to help me and guide me every step, I have sat down and Googled phrases like "weigth gain advice" or "help with gaining weight" and so many ******* times all the results are the complete opposite..WHERE IN THE **** DID I TYPE "LOSS"
I've even braved the media in attemp to get some help out of this hole called Derby as I can't afford private care and I get lost in the NHS world. I have had panick attacks so harsh that I've gone to hospital and hoping they'll section me and force feed me.
All I want is someone to visit me weekly or something. Give me step by step guidance with praise for good times and cautious words for the bad times. I have family who could be helping but it goes so far over their heads that they end up doing or saying the wrong thing. I just need something.
please help me. Please help me.Health Question & Answer
I have NEVER made myself sick. I HATE the way I am and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
i couldn't feel any more alien and alone to this planet. So many times I pick myself up and brave anything thrown at me but that doesn;t make me happy. I want a body. I don;t even mind being very fat. At least i'd fit in with the majority cos lets face it, big people are more uinderstood and let alone than the skinny rakes that I catagorise in.
In desperate attempts for someone to help me and guide me every step, I have sat down and Googled phrases like "weigth gain advice" or "help with gaining weight" and so many ******* times all the results are the complete opposite..WHERE IN THE **** DID I TYPE "LOSS"
I've even braved the media in attemp to get some help out of this hole called Derby as I can't afford private care and I get lost in the NHS world. I have had panick attacks so harsh that I've gone to hospital and hoping they'll section me and force feed me.
All I want is someone to visit me weekly or something. Give me step by step guidance with praise for good times and cautious words for the bad times. I have family who could be helping but it goes so far over their heads that they end up doing or saying the wrong thing. I just need something.
please help me. Please help me.Health Question & Answer
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Ok well I don't know how old you are or where you live but this might help. I asked my mom to read this letter and asked her opinion. She said that it could be many things one being, are you on any type of medication that could prevent you from gaining weight.? even birth control. My mother said that she had a friend who took birth control for many yrs and never ate a whole lot, but when she got off the birth control it changed her completely. Even her attitude and moods. She gained weight as well. also, it could be too that you are just genetically thin. I know a woman who has children is married runs a business and is just naturally skinny. She looks like she could be or was anorexic or bulimic. But she wasn't. She was perfectly healthy and active. And still is today. You might just be that. Another thing too, throughout your letter you sound very discouarged and upset, do you think you struggle (even just a lil) with depression that can take a toll on your eating habits severly.
also, I know I'm a complete stranger to you but this is a girl who knows a lot about self-image. Trust me. I used to be so caught up in how I looked and VERY MUCH cared about how I was viewd in some else's eyes. Guys didn't help either, I thrived on they're second glances, and cute remarks. But you know what.? I found a greater inner beauty just waiting to come out. I know this sounds completely sappy and cliche' but it's the truth. Sure I keep up on my health I am an active horse back rider/ trainer. And who are those ppl to catagorize you anyhow.? can you say 'Jealous'.?! :)) you are beautiful no matter how fat, skinny you are! don't think twice about it sweetie!
I have dirty blond curly hair with green eyes.I am half Itilian, german and english. I weigh approx. 130. I am 5' 3" and I love to dance. I love myself and who I am. you should too. In fact, I know you are beautiful, for sure, no lie. No I don't know you, but I know what you're going through.For real.
I don't want to scare you away or freak you out, but I also believe in God and his mighty power to change me and my views of myself (and others for that matter) as he once did. I am proud to say I am his child and he has made me gorgeous, and lovely. I have the reassurance of his ever arms around me. How precious his thoughts are to me! He knows all the tears you cry, he knows you hurt and long for help with your weight. It's not a curse either. Maybe he's just waiting for you to finally turn to the REAL weight source... Him... Who created you, loves you beyond compare, and thinks the absolute world of you. Heck yeah I know what I'm talking about too! lol.
You may not like, give a crap, hate, or just don't believe in God or his son but let me tell you something girlie, I am nothing without him. I couldn't be who I am or have the confidence I do without his grace, which made me beautiful (notice I didn't say pretty, cute or hot) I know all of this from personal and honest experience. No internet source can compare to that sister! =D
So here is what I suggest. if you want, you are more than welcome to e-mail me at: wakingup.laughing@yahoo.com or: redumbrellahood@yahoo.com, if you would like someone to talk to. I'm pretty good with advice. lol. But hey if you say , "No thank you stranger I didn't need all that, sheesh!" then ok you dont' hurt my feelings at all, really. But I would love to talk more with you. It's your choice.I hope this helped. My e-mail awaits you if you wish!!
ps (my name by the way is Catherine Ausborn but Cat works too.=D)
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also, I know I'm a complete stranger to you but this is a girl who knows a lot about self-image. Trust me. I used to be so caught up in how I looked and VERY MUCH cared about how I was viewd in some else's eyes. Guys didn't help either, I thrived on they're second glances, and cute remarks. But you know what.? I found a greater inner beauty just waiting to come out. I know this sounds completely sappy and cliche' but it's the truth. Sure I keep up on my health I am an active horse back rider/ trainer. And who are those ppl to catagorize you anyhow.? can you say 'Jealous'.?! :)) you are beautiful no matter how fat, skinny you are! don't think twice about it sweetie!
I have dirty blond curly hair with green eyes.I am half Itilian, german and english. I weigh approx. 130. I am 5' 3" and I love to dance. I love myself and who I am. you should too. In fact, I know you are beautiful, for sure, no lie. No I don't know you, but I know what you're going through.For real.
I don't want to scare you away or freak you out, but I also believe in God and his mighty power to change me and my views of myself (and others for that matter) as he once did. I am proud to say I am his child and he has made me gorgeous, and lovely. I have the reassurance of his ever arms around me. How precious his thoughts are to me! He knows all the tears you cry, he knows you hurt and long for help with your weight. It's not a curse either. Maybe he's just waiting for you to finally turn to the REAL weight source... Him... Who created you, loves you beyond compare, and thinks the absolute world of you. Heck yeah I know what I'm talking about too! lol.
You may not like, give a crap, hate, or just don't believe in God or his son but let me tell you something girlie, I am nothing without him. I couldn't be who I am or have the confidence I do without his grace, which made me beautiful (notice I didn't say pretty, cute or hot) I know all of this from personal and honest experience. No internet source can compare to that sister! =D
So here is what I suggest. if you want, you are more than welcome to e-mail me at: wakingup.laughing@yahoo.com or: redumbrellahood@yahoo.com, if you would like someone to talk to. I'm pretty good with advice. lol. But hey if you say , "No thank you stranger I didn't need all that, sheesh!" then ok you dont' hurt my feelings at all, really. But I would love to talk more with you. It's your choice.I hope this helped. My e-mail awaits you if you wish!!
ps (my name by the way is Catherine Ausborn but Cat works too.=D)
Don't forget to smile and laugh on your worse days!Health Question & Answer
protein shakes its what doctors give to anorexic people to gain weight. and it also helps make muscle. and also when you get older your metabolism will slow and you'll get bigger :DHealth Question & Answer
I'm in the exact same position as you. They won't take me seriously or help me properly either.
Ask for a nutritionist, I did....about 2 years ago and I'm still waiting.Health Question & Answer
Ask for a nutritionist, I did....about 2 years ago and I'm still waiting.Health Question & Answer
you need to convince your doctor to do some tests, have you worked out how many calories a day you eat, keep keep trying to increase this by 300 calories a day, try weight gaining drinks like body builders use and keep sipping it through the day.Health Question & Answer
she didnt say anything about losing weight dude. I was very skinny in high school, well all my life actually until my senior year. I weighed about 94 lbs and was 5 ft 2. I gained about 24 pounds that last year by eating until i was full, then Just a TIIINY bit more. Gradually my appetite increased and I would eat THAT portion as well as a TEENY bit more. i packed on some weight finally. I also ate alot of McDonald's and breakfast tacos and ALOT of mexican food. You should be thankful you're that thin though. Once you graduate school, forget it, you will never have that body again. Enjoy it while it lasts hunHealth Question & Answer
For the first answer your a Jerk!!!!! I am skinny also. 5 7 and 94-101 depend on where I am in the month. When I was a teen my "family" constantly said I was puking after every meal. My mom threaten to put me in the hospital and force feed me. I grew up and over that. But it is frustrating people always assuming that you have to puke or starve to be this way. I have also thought about wanting to be fat because no one walks up to them and says your soooo fat. But they walk up to us thin folks and say your soooooo skinny. I'm like duh don't you think I looked in the mirror this morning.I know a lot of them are jealousy but can't they understand that we want to be like them, a size six.? Overweight people have many choices of what to do and use including surgery when it come to weight lose. Us underweight people have nothing but eat more. So here is my latest thing I have been eating my three meals a day and two snacks, and drink those breakfast drinks with every meal. You know like carnation good start or something like that.? I figure that's really six meals a day. It should help eventually right.? Well I can't let you know if it has or not yet I just started last week and found out my hubby threw away our scale. It took me so long to figure that out because I avoided it. Try it and see if it helps you.
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For all those skinny minnies that find this or those that have friends that want to gain wieght I just started a yahoo group for it http://groups.yahoo.com/group/skinny_min... come and join and we will figure it out together.Health Question & Answer
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For all those skinny minnies that find this or those that have friends that want to gain wieght I just started a yahoo group for it http://groups.yahoo.com/group/skinny_min... come and join and we will figure it out together.Health Question & Answer
personally i think that you shouldn't be to hard on yourself. people fit in by their personality not the way they look. one of my best friends is rake thin and she has a lot of friends and nobody judges her. some people actually wish that they were you at this point. lol i am 15 i havn't had an eating disorder but trust me i have thought about it. i hate my body i weight 158.2 pounds. now the doctors say it is all muscle but when i look in the mirror i see something completely different like you. but that doesn't mean that that's necessarily what we look like. just be yourself and don't worry about what other people are going to think. i hope i helped here some websites that might help you:Health Question & Answer