Whats wrong with me... I want to break his knee caps?!
Question: Whats wrong with me... I want to break his knee caps.?
Ok... this might seem a little long but their is a long background story to it (ill try to keep it short).
My ex-step-dad (if that makes sense) ended up obviously divorcing my mom. He did a lot of things that could have seriously hurt my mom (and not necessarily physically) to make her feel as if she needed him. such as letting the air out of her tire so that she will be forced to miss work. or flooding the house with a hose TWICE.
I was very young at the time of these happenings (under 16) and now im 19. and now i feel as if (being the man of the house at the time because i was the oldest of my moms 3 children) I could have done more. although she handled the situation just fine.
Me being a christian, I accepted his apology, verbally, and at the time I thought I meant it, but often times i feel as if he is trying to use me to get to my mom sort of like a bridge. because she wont talk to him (sadly my younger brother is his son btw).
ANYWAY... I am now starting to feel like i really didn't accept his apology and the more i think about the situation the more i realize how it has shaped my characteristics (I have actually choked someone for upsetting my mom [I find it hilarious now]) But right now i feel that if he comes into remote proximity of my mom again I will definitly take the four hour drive home to take a bat to his knees.
AM I WRONG FOR IT.?.?.?.?.?.?Health Question & Answer
My ex-step-dad (if that makes sense) ended up obviously divorcing my mom. He did a lot of things that could have seriously hurt my mom (and not necessarily physically) to make her feel as if she needed him. such as letting the air out of her tire so that she will be forced to miss work. or flooding the house with a hose TWICE.
I was very young at the time of these happenings (under 16) and now im 19. and now i feel as if (being the man of the house at the time because i was the oldest of my moms 3 children) I could have done more. although she handled the situation just fine.
Me being a christian, I accepted his apology, verbally, and at the time I thought I meant it, but often times i feel as if he is trying to use me to get to my mom sort of like a bridge. because she wont talk to him (sadly my younger brother is his son btw).
ANYWAY... I am now starting to feel like i really didn't accept his apology and the more i think about the situation the more i realize how it has shaped my characteristics (I have actually choked someone for upsetting my mom [I find it hilarious now]) But right now i feel that if he comes into remote proximity of my mom again I will definitly take the four hour drive home to take a bat to his knees.
AM I WRONG FOR IT.?.?.?.?.?.?Health Question & Answer
Answers:
It is admirable that you want to stand up for your mother but she is old enough to do so for herself. You are the oldest of three in that family and what kind of example are you going to be setting by acting violently.? You would be the one that ultimately pays for this action not he. If you are a true spiritual person realize that the only actions that you control are your own. The others around you think and act for themselves and you have no control over them. Talk this over with a spiritual adviser that you are comfortable with. Remember that revenge and hatred only destroy the body that they are in. If you feel that you must intervene for your mother do so with calm words and not the screaming of someone out of control. Show that you are better than he is by remaining in control of your actions and words. He eventually is going to have to answer to a Higher Power and that is not your job.Health Question & Answer
From the sound of it there is no reason for you to not feel that way. You just have to know not to do it. It's human nature to be violent and there's no reason to feel bad about having thoughts like that. Just, you know, don't actually do it. But think about it all you want!Health Question & Answer
There is no right or wrong. You are human and clearly had a traumatic time. Find someone you can talk to before you do something you will regret. This will help you cope and focus your energy into a more positive and less violent manner.Health Question & Answer
You are a good son and want to protect your mother. Lots of mothers would welcome that. You need to concentrate on the consequences of your actions and what might happen if you hurt him. It would probably lead to trouble. This is how murders sometimes happen. Anger brewing and then blowing up in a rage. You need to figure out a logical way to deal with this man and I believe you will find one. You and your mother have had a difficult time and you don't want to add to it by doing something foolish. Put the bat away and find a safer way to cope. Whatever you decide I wish you well. =)Health Question & Answer