Hey bros need serious advice?!
Question: Hey bros need serious advice.?
I just found out my GF is pregnat.. we are only 17 and how do we tell our parents.. I know they are gonna freak out.. Any advice anyboy been through it.? Don't really have anybody to talk to about this and it's really tough..
There is now way we can be parentsHealth Question & Answer
There is now way we can be parentsHealth Question & Answer
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I hate that the two of you are in this situation and aren't prepared for it.. Becoming a parent is probably the most life-changing event I've experienced.. Hopefully, this can be handled in a way to being everyone closer..
You need to tell your families sooner rather than later.. You need to go into that discussion having thought about you and your gf's future.. School.? Work.? Marriage.? Be prepared to be emotionally put through the wringer.. Stay calm and do not lose your temper.. Both of you need your families very much right now.. It will be emotional and some things may be said that shouldn't.. Try not to be part of that problem..
That's the short version.. I had written much more and was far from done, but decided to go this route.. My daughter became pregnant at the beginning of her senior year in high school.. My granddaughter turned three this summer.. I've experienced this from a parent's perspective.. Your welcome to e-mail me if you have any questions or whatever..Health Question & Answer
You need to tell your families sooner rather than later.. You need to go into that discussion having thought about you and your gf's future.. School.? Work.? Marriage.? Be prepared to be emotionally put through the wringer.. Stay calm and do not lose your temper.. Both of you need your families very much right now.. It will be emotional and some things may be said that shouldn't.. Try not to be part of that problem..
That's the short version.. I had written much more and was far from done, but decided to go this route.. My daughter became pregnant at the beginning of her senior year in high school.. My granddaughter turned three this summer.. I've experienced this from a parent's perspective.. Your welcome to e-mail me if you have any questions or whatever..Health Question & Answer
I think your aware that it was a stupid decision, but there is nothing you can do about it now but deal with it.. My brother went through the same experience and I actually accomponied him to tell my parents and did most of the talking.. It made it easier on him.. If you want to tell them yourself the best thing to do is come up with a plan for the future, sit both your parents down and tell them the truth.. They will be upset at first but eventually their main concern will be to try to help you.. But first you need to make sure the baby is yours and decide whether abortion or adoption are options for you..Health Question & Answer
well, i guess unlucky.. No matter how embarressed and uncomfatable you may be.... the sooner you tell your parents the better.. Imagine your gf just gave birth, and only then your parents knew that you are father.. Get the idea.? well anyway as, your 17, and maybe having a job or having further education, you are in the situation where you will not be able to attend the baby..You still got 9 months to really quicken things up, either studies, training, learing how to be a father, and for gf learing how to be a mother..etc etc.... after those 9 months and still havent got things to do, you may want give the baby into your parents hands.. They obviously know what they are doing..
People are going to say "You idiot you screwed it all up, why did you do it if you know your not ready" yeah well you did and got unlucky, and whats done is done and move on an deal with the situation the best you can.. Theres always adoption n stuff, but if i was your shoes i wouldn't give my baby away..
Good luck, hope it all works out ^^ :DHealth Question & Answer
People are going to say "You idiot you screwed it all up, why did you do it if you know your not ready" yeah well you did and got unlucky, and whats done is done and move on an deal with the situation the best you can.. Theres always adoption n stuff, but if i was your shoes i wouldn't give my baby away..
Good luck, hope it all works out ^^ :DHealth Question & Answer
Good for you for taking your 50% responsibility..
You really have three options and only the two of you know what is right (in no real order) -
1.. Give the child up for adoption
2.. Have an abortion
3.. Have the child and care for him/her (together, separately, whatever works for you, etc..)
The two of you need to talk..
As for telling your parents, you guys know them best so decide if it's best to do it together or on your own and just say it.. I don't think there's an easy way.. Good luck..Health Question & Answer
You really have three options and only the two of you know what is right (in no real order) -
1.. Give the child up for adoption
2.. Have an abortion
3.. Have the child and care for him/her (together, separately, whatever works for you, etc..)
The two of you need to talk..
As for telling your parents, you guys know them best so decide if it's best to do it together or on your own and just say it.. I don't think there's an easy way.. Good luck..Health Question & Answer
It sounds to me like neither of you is capable of making a decision and you must understand that above all you have to consider the other life which you have created
Therefore you need to involve both sets of parents as soon as possible , sure they might be mad at you both but hopefully they will be able to help you make the right decisions and support you both
If the decision id to abort then it is much better to do it as early as possible .. If the decision is to allow birth then you certainly need to involve them .. So for goodness sake tell them now , do not put it off anymore .. Good Luck
PS it also sounds as if both of you need some advice on birth controlHealth Question & Answer
Therefore you need to involve both sets of parents as soon as possible , sure they might be mad at you both but hopefully they will be able to help you make the right decisions and support you both
If the decision id to abort then it is much better to do it as early as possible .. If the decision is to allow birth then you certainly need to involve them .. So for goodness sake tell them now , do not put it off anymore .. Good Luck
PS it also sounds as if both of you need some advice on birth controlHealth Question & Answer
My wife and I are both products of 'crisis pregnancies'.. Mom was 17 when she found out she was pregnant with me..........Dad was 19.. They married and Mom turned 18 a month later and such.. They have been married 37 years this summer - and in their mid/late 50's now..
My wife's Mom was 15 when she got pregnant with my wife.. She married the Dad and had my wife when she was 16.. They divorced when my wife was a year and a half and she remarried at 19 and has been married to him ever since..
There were hard times had by both families because of the early pregnancies..........but everyone survived......and learned..
For the record, because of our experience........my wife was 30 and I was 35 when we had my/our first child........my only child......and he is almost 2..
Hang in there bro.. You definitely have a big issue here........but keep in mind, it's not the babies fault.. And as well, keep in mind, that I do not believe abortion is your alternative.. There are a lot of people out there who want children and cannot have them.. Consider adoption if you would..
Feel free to email me............Health Question & Answer
My wife's Mom was 15 when she got pregnant with my wife.. She married the Dad and had my wife when she was 16.. They divorced when my wife was a year and a half and she remarried at 19 and has been married to him ever since..
There were hard times had by both families because of the early pregnancies..........but everyone survived......and learned..
For the record, because of our experience........my wife was 30 and I was 35 when we had my/our first child........my only child......and he is almost 2..
Hang in there bro.. You definitely have a big issue here........but keep in mind, it's not the babies fault.. And as well, keep in mind, that I do not believe abortion is your alternative.. There are a lot of people out there who want children and cannot have them.. Consider adoption if you would..
Feel free to email me............Health Question & Answer
Well, let me tell you man your not the first nor the last to be in this situation..
an advise is first to face both of your families and always know that their love is unconditional
after that since both of you are young and its almost impossible to be parents at this age, still you have many chances
1- always the option of giving the child for adoption since many couples are in the search for a child
2- if you get your family support in raising/supporting the child tell you finsh your study, work, ect
hope that helped
tcHealth Question & Answer
an advise is first to face both of your families and always know that their love is unconditional
after that since both of you are young and its almost impossible to be parents at this age, still you have many chances
1- always the option of giving the child for adoption since many couples are in the search for a child
2- if you get your family support in raising/supporting the child tell you finsh your study, work, ect
hope that helped
tcHealth Question & Answer
You need to be straightforward and tell them as soon as possible.. You wouldn't want her parents finding out first and throwing an extra can of gasoline on the fire.. The sooner, the better..
There's no way to prance around it, if you're going to act like adults, you should take responsibility for your actions..Health Question & Answer
There's no way to prance around it, if you're going to act like adults, you should take responsibility for your actions..Health Question & Answer
well you tried to be safe.. all you can do is tell them.. depending on your beliefs, you can give it up, or (i know lots of people dont agree w/this but it is there for a reason) abortion.. if she is not ready to be pregnant, then get it taken care of.. you need to do whats best for you both and your future child.. thats the bottom line..Health Question & Answer
well sooner or later you are gonna have to tell them.. Don't wait it out until she is showing if you decide to keep it but tell your parents ASAP! I know your parents will freak out but they are the only ones that can help you in this situation.. So tell them right away! Hope this helped and good luck! =]Health Question & Answer
Maybe abortion...... i know its wrong but so is having sex under age unmarital parenting ......your girl is always goin to produces the egg also you will always produce sperm so its not like you cant have more, you guys are too young
don't give up you guys future get an ABORTIONHealth Question & Answer
don't give up you guys future get an ABORTIONHealth Question & Answer
Don't b afraid what's the worst it could happen..........Well it all depends how u get along with ur parent..........If they're nice they will understand............The probably did the something..................Do u even have a job..............Look my best friend's sister had a baby when she was 17 also her n her bf got together n told there parents, yeah I'm not going to lie their parents weren't happy at 1st but then when the baby was born they were soooo happy how many month is she................Don't wait too long..........Health Question & Answer
What Is done Is done.. That how you got here.. You might as well sit down as an adult with then or your pastor, and make plans of how to deal with having a child....there are kids younger than you, that have managed..
It wasn;t your plan, but you had to know that it could happen.. JUst remember It is a life....And desires a chance just like you!
Any problem can be talked out.. Its not going to be easy....Health Question & Answer
It wasn;t your plan, but you had to know that it could happen.. JUst remember It is a life....And desires a chance just like you!
Any problem can be talked out.. Its not going to be easy....Health Question & Answer
Many are gonna come on here and say something like:
"WELL, YOU SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT THAT BEFORE YOU GOT ALL WILLY-NILLY.."
Well, they will be correct.. Now you must foster the responsibility.. Just tell them.. There is no SPECIAL WAY to do it..Health Question & Answer
"WELL, YOU SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT THAT BEFORE YOU GOT ALL WILLY-NILLY.."
Well, they will be correct.. Now you must foster the responsibility.. Just tell them.. There is no SPECIAL WAY to do it..Health Question & Answer
You both need to talk this over and go together to planned parenthood..
Despite the vilification of abortion by those on the extreme, this is the type of situation where one hopes that she will consider it..
Kind thoughts,
HermesHealth Question & Answer
Despite the vilification of abortion by those on the extreme, this is the type of situation where one hopes that she will consider it..
Kind thoughts,
HermesHealth Question & Answer
*cough* abortion *cough*Health Question & Answer
atleast you shud tell your gf that you are not ready to be parents.. and get an abortion asap! and don't tell your parents..Health Question & Answer
Have her get an abortion..Health Question & Answer
if u cant handle being parents u should not ahve had sexHealth Question & Answer
HA! abortion or keep it.. or do as any man do DENY IT! lmaoHealth Question & Answer