Erectile Dysfunction in 17 year old boyfriend?!
Question: Erectile Dysfunction in 17 year old boyfriend.?
My boyfriend and I have been having trouble with our sex life lately.. He cant keep it hard and he cant get it all the way up..
My boyfriend is 17 and quite frankly, a bit of a horn dog.. He is slightly overweight and is usually a heavy pot smoker, though he hasn't smoked in a couple months at least.. He has been depressed as long as ive known him, but a huge horn dog just as long..
I'm sad because even though it doesn't matter to me as much as he thinks it does, he gets completely embarrassed and apologizes over and over and over again..
......I'm his best friend and the only person he can really talk to.. We love each other a lot and have been close for years..
What do you think could be causing this.? =/ I'm worried about his self esteem and I want a way to fix it.. He refuses to see a doctor about it so I figured I'd ask here first..Health Question & Answer
My boyfriend is 17 and quite frankly, a bit of a horn dog.. He is slightly overweight and is usually a heavy pot smoker, though he hasn't smoked in a couple months at least.. He has been depressed as long as ive known him, but a huge horn dog just as long..
I'm sad because even though it doesn't matter to me as much as he thinks it does, he gets completely embarrassed and apologizes over and over and over again..
......I'm his best friend and the only person he can really talk to.. We love each other a lot and have been close for years..
What do you think could be causing this.? =/ I'm worried about his self esteem and I want a way to fix it.. He refuses to see a doctor about it so I figured I'd ask here first..Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Try not to act too disappointed and definitely don't get mad at him..
You said yourself he's a horn dog.. What's important to horny people.? Yes, getting some.. Well, you're important to him and sex is important to him, and he wants to do the best he can and under all that pressure, he chokes.. What's worse, he's now embarrassed, he thinks he let you down, and in all likelihood he's not going to get you off tonight.. 17-year-olds don't generally go down on women, so you're in it for yourself.. What's worse is that the more it happens, the more he worries.. You'll have to do something to end this cycle.. More about that later..
There is a slim chance it could be something medical.. Perhaps he smokes cigarettes, drinks before sex, continues to smoke pot or is on anti-depressants or some other prescription drug with the side effect of Mr.. Floppy staying floppy.. Diabetes and kidney disease can also cause it, but it would probably have been discovered by now..
It could also be depression.. You can't get it up if you're depressed and you can't get it up if you're on anti-depressants.. The world can be a cruel, cruel place..
It will probably go away on it's own.. When he's about to give up because he can't perform, let him watch you masturbate or take a shower with him.. Let him lay over you while you manually stimulate him.. Teach him how to do good oral sex on you.. Just figure out something he likes and do that.. Better yet, figure out something you both like.. Nothing is more stimulating to a man than knowing he is genuinely pleasing a woman.. Speaking of masturbation, remind him not to masturbate without you, because the more orgasms he has the harder it is to get turned on..
Edit to add: Oh, I nearly forgot.. Condoms can be a big problem.. Do NOT stop using protection.. Is he especially large.? Have him get larger sized condoms.. Constrictive condoms don't help erections, and the tightness also decreases what he can feel when he's inside you.. If neither of you know whether he is large or not, have him take a toilet paper tube and try to put it over his erect penis.. If it's a tight fit, doesn't go in at all, or rips the tube, he's larger than average and needs larger condoms.. I do not recommend Trojan's large brand, as they don't feel larger to me.. Even if he's not large, some guys just can't work with a regular condom.. Have him spend the extra money for a nice thin condom like Kimono, or a specialty condom with texture or a special shape.. Do NOT stop using protection.. Have fun with experimenting with different condoms.. You can even try a female condom, but to me, it feels like having sex with a garbage bag, and they can sometimes fall inside your vagina during sex, which isn't safe.. Do NOT stop using protection..Health Question & Answer
You said yourself he's a horn dog.. What's important to horny people.? Yes, getting some.. Well, you're important to him and sex is important to him, and he wants to do the best he can and under all that pressure, he chokes.. What's worse, he's now embarrassed, he thinks he let you down, and in all likelihood he's not going to get you off tonight.. 17-year-olds don't generally go down on women, so you're in it for yourself.. What's worse is that the more it happens, the more he worries.. You'll have to do something to end this cycle.. More about that later..
There is a slim chance it could be something medical.. Perhaps he smokes cigarettes, drinks before sex, continues to smoke pot or is on anti-depressants or some other prescription drug with the side effect of Mr.. Floppy staying floppy.. Diabetes and kidney disease can also cause it, but it would probably have been discovered by now..
It could also be depression.. You can't get it up if you're depressed and you can't get it up if you're on anti-depressants.. The world can be a cruel, cruel place..
It will probably go away on it's own.. When he's about to give up because he can't perform, let him watch you masturbate or take a shower with him.. Let him lay over you while you manually stimulate him.. Teach him how to do good oral sex on you.. Just figure out something he likes and do that.. Better yet, figure out something you both like.. Nothing is more stimulating to a man than knowing he is genuinely pleasing a woman.. Speaking of masturbation, remind him not to masturbate without you, because the more orgasms he has the harder it is to get turned on..
Edit to add: Oh, I nearly forgot.. Condoms can be a big problem.. Do NOT stop using protection.. Is he especially large.? Have him get larger sized condoms.. Constrictive condoms don't help erections, and the tightness also decreases what he can feel when he's inside you.. If neither of you know whether he is large or not, have him take a toilet paper tube and try to put it over his erect penis.. If it's a tight fit, doesn't go in at all, or rips the tube, he's larger than average and needs larger condoms.. I do not recommend Trojan's large brand, as they don't feel larger to me.. Even if he's not large, some guys just can't work with a regular condom.. Have him spend the extra money for a nice thin condom like Kimono, or a specialty condom with texture or a special shape.. Do NOT stop using protection.. Have fun with experimenting with different condoms.. You can even try a female condom, but to me, it feels like having sex with a garbage bag, and they can sometimes fall inside your vagina during sex, which isn't safe.. Do NOT stop using protection..Health Question & Answer
The effects of pot stay in your system for a long time, it lives in your fat cells, this could be part of his body trying to re ajjust itself.. also pot is linked to obesity.. This could be to do with his depression, as there may be a emotional link more then physcial.. He should go speak to his doctor about the drugs, being overwieght and the depression.. If the doctor can help with all those then nothing is fixed "down there" it may very well be physical and then he should go back, no matter how embarrasing it may be..Health Question & Answer
Smoking pot doesn't help anything, ever.. Probably worsens his depression.. Needs to see his physician, now.. Go with if you must.. 17 year old shouldn't be having these problems.. Could be a physical problem that needs to be addressed by a doctor.. Or a mental problem that needs to be addressed also.. Don't delay, good luck..Health Question & Answer
Sounds like he has lost confidence in his ability to perform.. He should see a Doctor to be on the safe side..
If he gets an erection at other times then it is in his mind, but if he does not find himself waking with a 'morning glory' then it may be something physical..
Tell him to not smoke (anything) lay off booze, caffeine and food dripping in fat!Health Question & Answer
If he gets an erection at other times then it is in his mind, but if he does not find himself waking with a 'morning glory' then it may be something physical..
Tell him to not smoke (anything) lay off booze, caffeine and food dripping in fat!Health Question & Answer
You say that he was diagnosed with depression.?
If he is taking antidepressants, that could do it..
But by telling his doctor about this problem, his medication can be changed to one that does not have this side effect..
I'm just guessing but it could very well be the problem..
Ask him about it.. And ask him to see a physician..Health Question & Answer
If he is taking antidepressants, that could do it..
But by telling his doctor about this problem, his medication can be changed to one that does not have this side effect..
I'm just guessing but it could very well be the problem..
Ask him about it.. And ask him to see a physician..Health Question & Answer
Try a bit of foreplay before sex, or maybe try some revealing costumes ;), which should get his motor running, it is very odd for a 17yo to have erectile dysfunction..
If he still has a problem continue staying of the weed and eventually see the doctor..
Hope that helps..Health Question & Answer
If he still has a problem continue staying of the weed and eventually see the doctor..
Hope that helps..Health Question & Answer
Have him drink two 2 ounce shots of wheat-grass each day you can find at Whole Foods deli or Jumba Juice.. This improve his stamina but also correct whatever internal problem he may be experiencing.. The wheat-grass will also help him loose weight have way more energy regardless of the pot.. See link below.. Good luck..Health Question & Answer
Since you said he is slightly over weight blood pressure might be a problem.. It takes a good blood flow to keep that thing hard.. Viagra is not necessarly a good thing for overweight people so forget that.. Heavy pot smoking may also been a contributing factor..Health Question & Answer
fair play to you for sticking with him in this hard time.. im 17, attractive, healthy, outgoing and well behaved yet ive never had a girlfriend...... strange according to Yahoo Answers its because im too nice Lol which is the only logical answer right enoughHealth Question & Answer
ask him to stop smoking and he has sexual anxiety perhaps because he has a smallpenis encorage him and tell him it grows till he is 19 so not to worry give him confidence and do not not not ridicule him,he will be ok he has curly hair.?Health Question & Answer
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If he's a horndog, maybe he lost interest in you..Health Question & Answer
not sure what's going on, maybe he's trying so too hardHealth Question & Answer
depression or too much stress can contribute to his problem and cause him not too work..........it could also be a health issue if he is over weight............you can get him excited and he would become erect then when he turns over or tries to take off his pants or moves around a lot he could lose it because he has poor circulation and its a blood distribution thing............sometimes if he has trouble getting it up more direct stimulation helps say you give him oral for a minute or use your hands with some lubrication....................i have a friend who had this problem several months ago, he is only in his 20's but he was overweight........he bought a bike and started riding his bike for 30-40 minutes 4-5 days a week and after a couple of months he has an unbelievable sex life........just yesterday he was telling me how he had a crazy weekend and kept it up for almost 2 hours..............he should talk to a doctor it could be a sign of heart problems..........he should not be ashamed of it, yea it sucks but a lot of men of all ages go through it..........sitting there depressed and getting angry only makes it worse..........Health Question & Answer
well marijuana is known to cause that sort of problem and significantly lower sperm counts when used heavily in cases such as this.. i cant tell you much but dont try anything"at home" b/c it might make his situation worse.. i strongly suggest having a serious talk and be sure to reassure him that you dont want him to see a doctor b/c hes not pleasing you, but simply because this is a serious problem and could potentially harm him! so try to talk to him about seeing a dr.. about this.. doctors cant break confedentiallity so its not like as soon as he leaves the dr they'll be paparazzi outside or something.. no one will truly know and if anyone asks i mean he just went to the dr.. like everyone else! cant nobody say anything to that.. but in the mean time google n yahoo all you can about ED and how going to the dr.. will help him so you can "build your case" and hopefully get him to go!
hope i helped!Health Question & Answer
hope i helped!Health Question & Answer
first off you should not be having sex at 17! sike i'm not going lecture you! anyways your b/f might be turning himself off with his own depression or lack of self esteem.. or maybe your b/f is just losing interest in the way you have sex try to spruce it up.. or maybe he could be less attracted to you and doesn't want to hurt your feelings.. i sure hope it isn't the last one.. he hasn't been doing any other drugs has he or is he on medication.. when my fiance takes his xanax's he becomes limp..Health Question & Answer
This isn't something that can be fixed straight away.. The fact that he doesnt want to see a doctor.... lol, typical of guys.. But the thing is, you really do need to get him to see a doctor about it.. Thing is, if he is slightly over weight, he smokes alot, and physiologically he is affected by it.... These are more than enough factors to cause erectile dysfunction..
You need to really sit down and chat with him, both of you, (or you just by yourself) research about it a little more, alot of information is available on the internet.. Show him what its really about, to be honest if you cant get it sorted it out soon, it'll only make it harder for him and you, and put a strain on your relationship..
Doctors nurses, etc are there to help.. They wouldn't make fun of him at all, or tell private details, and im sure you know that.... but men.... lol i know so many guys have a fear of the Doctors..
Anyways, hope all goes well, and keep trying hun!Health Question & Answer
You need to really sit down and chat with him, both of you, (or you just by yourself) research about it a little more, alot of information is available on the internet.. Show him what its really about, to be honest if you cant get it sorted it out soon, it'll only make it harder for him and you, and put a strain on your relationship..
Doctors nurses, etc are there to help.. They wouldn't make fun of him at all, or tell private details, and im sure you know that.... but men.... lol i know so many guys have a fear of the Doctors..
Anyways, hope all goes well, and keep trying hun!Health Question & Answer
ok well first of all....it could be the pot keeping him from getting hard and another thing......if you go to spencers they have things you can put around the base of his shaft and its tight so he can stay hard......tryin sucking his....you know....then putting that ring on......i would try that......if that doesnt work, he does need to go to the doctor....or try using going to a sex store and asking them what you could use on your boyfriend......dont tell him to go though, cause he wont......you should go....take a friend if you dont want to go alone....but that might help!Health Question & Answer