Why can't i urinate at urinals?!
Question: Why can't i urinate at urinals.?
im a 16 year old boy but when i go toilet at school i cannot go at the urinal if another boy is there. ive tried before but i end up not urinating. i just stand there holding my penis. am i ashamed of my penis or what. my penis is 2 and a half inches soft. please help me overcome my fearHealth Question & Answer
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The condition is called Bashful Bladder (Paruresis). It is usually (not 100% of the time, but most times) a psychological condition. It isn't shame internalized as much as fear that someone else will see your penis and make fun of it - combined with an anxiety disorder.
For mild cases (which I think yours is), simple reassurance is enough. Knowing logically that there is no reason for the fear - many people can overcome it by positive reinforcement of self (look yourself in the mirror naked and say something like "I love my body, and I love my penis. I am not ashamed of it nor embarrassed by it, I am proud of it" three times, each morning. Repeat the same thing silently to yourself when you try to use a urinal. ) One day after a couple of months of treatment, or less -- a squirt will come out and shut off -- 6 weeks later, a short stream. A few weeks after that, you will be able to urinate if no one is there, and then within a few months more, you will be cured and be able to urinate just like everyone else.
As I said, I do not think it is just shame -- you have nothing to be ashamed of, no one cares what size any penis is soft -- and if your is 2.5 inches soft, I'll bet its at least average hard (hard for an adult male, 90% of penises are between 4.5 and 7 inches). However, I am in the minority that thinks that Paruresis has a fairly standard development curve. I don't know, but I suspect that when you were young your parent(s) told you that your penis was dirty and no one should see it -- and told you this enough to lead you to dislike showing it in public. I think that is the usual reason -- too much privacy and too much shame by others when you are young.
In any event, if the treatment I suggest doesn't work, I suggest a counselour -- it is curable.
You are WONDERFUL!!!! Remember that.
Kindest thoughts,
HermesHealth Question & Answer
For mild cases (which I think yours is), simple reassurance is enough. Knowing logically that there is no reason for the fear - many people can overcome it by positive reinforcement of self (look yourself in the mirror naked and say something like "I love my body, and I love my penis. I am not ashamed of it nor embarrassed by it, I am proud of it" three times, each morning. Repeat the same thing silently to yourself when you try to use a urinal. ) One day after a couple of months of treatment, or less -- a squirt will come out and shut off -- 6 weeks later, a short stream. A few weeks after that, you will be able to urinate if no one is there, and then within a few months more, you will be cured and be able to urinate just like everyone else.
As I said, I do not think it is just shame -- you have nothing to be ashamed of, no one cares what size any penis is soft -- and if your is 2.5 inches soft, I'll bet its at least average hard (hard for an adult male, 90% of penises are between 4.5 and 7 inches). However, I am in the minority that thinks that Paruresis has a fairly standard development curve. I don't know, but I suspect that when you were young your parent(s) told you that your penis was dirty and no one should see it -- and told you this enough to lead you to dislike showing it in public. I think that is the usual reason -- too much privacy and too much shame by others when you are young.
In any event, if the treatment I suggest doesn't work, I suggest a counselour -- it is curable.
You are WONDERFUL!!!! Remember that.
Kindest thoughts,
HermesHealth Question & Answer
much unlike using your private bathroom at home, you might feel violated if another guy looks upon you. its a normal feeling, its really nothing to do with the size of your penis, there is always going to be one large, or smaller, nothing wrong with using a stall to fell comfortable..Health Question & Answer
It is in your head (the one on your shoulders). Use a stall if it bothers you. All men "check each other out" and they're not all gay either. And don't worry so much about the size of your piece. If it works and is healthy any potential partner will be cool with it.
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trust me, its fine, i don't like the idea of using a urinal in school, with all of the perverted kids around today, they would look, and go make jokes, just stick to a regular toilet.Health Question & Answer
yeh i cant go at urinals either. im not ashamed of my penis or anything its just when i get there nothing happens.
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i just use the cubicle. its just easier.Health Question & Answer
i know that i prefer privacy when i go to the restroom (pee or crap)
its not medical its just psychological...Health Question & Answer
its not medical its just psychological...Health Question & Answer
rofl wtf.... 2 inchs and a half Health Question & Answer
your fine dude... when you gotta go, you gotta go... relax and think of a babbling brook... if other dudes are checking out your junk just call them gay... ;-)Health Question & Answer
Go to a stall. Experience is the only cure for this.Health Question & Answer
...use the stall.Health Question & Answer