Forgive me for putting this in Men's Health, but I only want men to answer. It's about family!?!
Question: Forgive me for putting this in Men's Health, but I only want men to answer. It's about family!.?
Curiosity... Men, do you expect to foot the bill, in the family sense.?
I'm talking about dates and life in general. I do expect the man to pay when we go out. I try to compensate with thoughtful gestures or "Surprise! I brought breakfast!"
Now, life in general... I'd like to one day have babies. I'd like to have lots of babies and I wanna do it right... MY IDEA OF RIGHT FOR ME. I wanna stay home with them.
I'm an independent women in other ways. I never let a man pay my living expenses or do anything too extravagant. But I will only marry to start a family and I will only start a family if I can raise my kids the way I prefer, and that's being home with them.
I understand that puts a lot of pressure on the man and I'm wondering what modern men, in general, think about this.? I'm a good woman, a heck of a catch and I'm working hard to live the wholesome life I've always wanted.
I'm gonna make a note here that I really value your opinion here, but I asked this question a little earlier under Society and Culture and people started talking to me about how there are already too many kids in the world and I should adopt. Maybe I will, but that's not the point. I've also got working moms jump down my throat, saying I wanna be a kept woman or I'm acting like a 2 year old. I've got people telling me I'm lazy! I expect to work hard as a mother. I don't care about fancy clothes or designer purses, jewelry or vacations. I wanna look back on my life and my family and feel like I did everything I could. I wanna share that with my husband and I wanna be a good wife!
I'm asking a question here about men and women and families. Please tell me what you think of that. I wanna hear from men. I'm not a bad person, I'm trying to be a good person. Thank you.
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I'm talking about dates and life in general. I do expect the man to pay when we go out. I try to compensate with thoughtful gestures or "Surprise! I brought breakfast!"
Now, life in general... I'd like to one day have babies. I'd like to have lots of babies and I wanna do it right... MY IDEA OF RIGHT FOR ME. I wanna stay home with them.
I'm an independent women in other ways. I never let a man pay my living expenses or do anything too extravagant. But I will only marry to start a family and I will only start a family if I can raise my kids the way I prefer, and that's being home with them.
I understand that puts a lot of pressure on the man and I'm wondering what modern men, in general, think about this.? I'm a good woman, a heck of a catch and I'm working hard to live the wholesome life I've always wanted.
I'm gonna make a note here that I really value your opinion here, but I asked this question a little earlier under Society and Culture and people started talking to me about how there are already too many kids in the world and I should adopt. Maybe I will, but that's not the point. I've also got working moms jump down my throat, saying I wanna be a kept woman or I'm acting like a 2 year old. I've got people telling me I'm lazy! I expect to work hard as a mother. I don't care about fancy clothes or designer purses, jewelry or vacations. I wanna look back on my life and my family and feel like I did everything I could. I wanna share that with my husband and I wanna be a good wife!
I'm asking a question here about men and women and families. Please tell me what you think of that. I wanna hear from men. I'm not a bad person, I'm trying to be a good person. Thank you.
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I wouldn't mind footing the bill if I had a wife at home raising our kids. I would rather they be raised by their mother than spending hundreds of dollars a week for a daycare when you have no idea what's going on there or what they may be learning from other children. My brother's kids were angels until they started going to daycare everyday. I'm not saying all daycare is bad though.
The biggest problem is going to be financially, which you already said you realized. That's going to be a big issue. Luckily you will have some tax incentives to help you all pay bills, food, clothing, etc...
I have a lot of respect for working moms. My mother was always one. But who's to say that staying home all day with your kids isn't work.? I wouldn't worry too much about what other people say. It's your life. No one should tell you how to raise your children. If you think that's the proper way to do it and you have a man to support it then I say go for it.
I hope your man has a good work ethic :)Health Question & Answer
The biggest problem is going to be financially, which you already said you realized. That's going to be a big issue. Luckily you will have some tax incentives to help you all pay bills, food, clothing, etc...
I have a lot of respect for working moms. My mother was always one. But who's to say that staying home all day with your kids isn't work.? I wouldn't worry too much about what other people say. It's your life. No one should tell you how to raise your children. If you think that's the proper way to do it and you have a man to support it then I say go for it.
I hope your man has a good work ethic :)Health Question & Answer
well you sound like a great catch to me. a woman that wants to take the responsibility of watching the kids all the time. you sound very family oriented, and i think that is a good thing. i'm sure you will find a man that will agree to working hard in the office so you can work hard at home. Health Question & Answer
well first of all when you meet a guy dont talk about marriage or kids to soon i know life changing but that freaks a guy out just be cool about it and when you meet the right guy everything will fall into space.......i mean to say is that he will purpose to you when hes ready.....Health Question & Answer
There are lots men's out who thinks exactly the way you feel.
myself i have 7 childrens and all grown and i just wish we had more.
just make sure you find the right man. Health Question & Answer
myself i have 7 childrens and all grown and i just wish we had more.
just make sure you find the right man. Health Question & Answer
That's a great idea. Especially for who you are, I'd really appreciate your work.Health Question & Answer
I DON'T THINK YOU ARE ASKING TO MUCHHealth Question & Answer
well i,ll tell you dear. call me old fashion if you like to but i came from a home where the man was the bread winner and my parents were old fashion and they raised us kids that way.i believe when i.am taking a woman out, i hold the door for them and i like to pick up the tab. my dad always told me and my brother always use a woman with respect and kindness. but you know something. the way times are today it,s almost impossible to live right with only 1 paycheck coming in. it amost takes both people to work today to make ends meet. i know where your coming from, you like to stay home and take care of the kids while i bring home the bacon(like they say), but times has changed and if a person is going to live right they have to change with them. do you realize what it takes to support a wife and kids today.? i don,t have 1 thing against sex, but when 2 people lay own and she gets pregnant, they better know how to support the kid. if i were available i would love to have a woman like you.Health Question & Answer
If both of you can really pull it off (and in these expensive times, it gets harder and harder to do so), then go for it.
I never felt that a stay-at-home mom didn't "work". Personally, there is no difference in dealing with a two-year old and a recalicitrant employee who won;t do what is asked of them.
As long as there is no resentment, find that man who wants you for youHealth Question & Answer
I never felt that a stay-at-home mom didn't "work". Personally, there is no difference in dealing with a two-year old and a recalicitrant employee who won;t do what is asked of them.
As long as there is no resentment, find that man who wants you for youHealth Question & Answer
Stephanie, I'm 55 and a divorced, custodial Dad. My youngest graduates next spring. Believe me, it is work raising kids at home - loving, joyous, difficult, frustrating expensive work.
I believe the man pays, but in return gets compassionate parenting for my children, sweetness, fidelity and appreciation, and mostly, a common vision for the family. BTW, whenever my companion expresses her appreciation, I try to return it at least twice.
If you get a chance, listen to Dr. Laura Schlessinger on AM radio - not a hate wonk but very commonsense family counselor. She expresses this much better than me.Health Question & Answer
I believe the man pays, but in return gets compassionate parenting for my children, sweetness, fidelity and appreciation, and mostly, a common vision for the family. BTW, whenever my companion expresses her appreciation, I try to return it at least twice.
If you get a chance, listen to Dr. Laura Schlessinger on AM radio - not a hate wonk but very commonsense family counselor. She expresses this much better than me.Health Question & Answer
it does seem that society wants the women to stay at home and raise the kids and keep the house clean while the man is off at work earning money to keep a roof over your heads and food on the table. do i have a problem with this.? no. just as long as both husband and wife are happy. if that's what you want...that's what you want. this is just something you're going to have to talk about with your future partner(s) about.Health Question & Answer
Regardless of circumstances...I'll pay for the first date or two. Much of it depends on income levels beyond that.
Your situation is just that- yours. Your expectations are yours, and it's not anyone's place to tell you that you're wrong. If you want to have kids, then that's your right (I'm 35, single, and have no desire for kids, but what makes society wonderful is that you and I can each pursue our own desires) as an adult. My stock comment is that you should have as many kids as you can financially and emotionally support and love.
You're being upfront and honest; whether I agree or not with your opinion is irrelevant; clearly you have an idea of what your expectations are, and you're presenting it openly and honestly (far better that than being dishonest and unclear about this).Health Question & Answer
Your situation is just that- yours. Your expectations are yours, and it's not anyone's place to tell you that you're wrong. If you want to have kids, then that's your right (I'm 35, single, and have no desire for kids, but what makes society wonderful is that you and I can each pursue our own desires) as an adult. My stock comment is that you should have as many kids as you can financially and emotionally support and love.
You're being upfront and honest; whether I agree or not with your opinion is irrelevant; clearly you have an idea of what your expectations are, and you're presenting it openly and honestly (far better that than being dishonest and unclear about this).Health Question & Answer
if women want an equal society start paying if not then get back to the kitchen sink and be quiet, simple choice reallyHealth Question & Answer