I know this is in the wrong section but please I need a guy's perspective!!?!
Question: I know this is in the wrong section but please I need a guy's perspective!!.?
Hey, there is this guy who I was friends with benefits with for months (well, we werent really friends before,but like acquantainces) because he had a "busy schedule" but i said I couldnt do it anymore. He asked me to be his girlfriend and intoduced me to his friends as his girlfriend but then he started to freak out about this new label and said that he felt pressure now to hang out w/ his "girlfriend"
He told me that he wanted space but also said that we should have sex anymore and we didnt talk for a week. When i called him, he said that he needs to get his grades up to get into law school and he just need to focus on that. He said that he doesnt want a girlfriend right now but also really doesnt want to lose me. He asked if we could still hang out and be friends but I said that it would be really hard for me to just be friends, at least right now. He was really upset that I said that we really werent friends before cause i guess he thought we were, but we really didnt hang out that much. He sounded so sad on the phone and kept saying he doesnt want to lose me and says that he gets attached with the people he has sex with. I dont want to waste any more emotion on him because he has really hurt me but I also want to try to be friends.
Should I give him a chance.? Do you think he is being being genuine and really wants to be friends or does he just think he will get the "benefits" again (which he wont).? My friends keep saying that if I just be cool around him, and not be so "available" he will want me back, like now that he cant have me, he will want me even more.?Health Question & Answer
He told me that he wanted space but also said that we should have sex anymore and we didnt talk for a week. When i called him, he said that he needs to get his grades up to get into law school and he just need to focus on that. He said that he doesnt want a girlfriend right now but also really doesnt want to lose me. He asked if we could still hang out and be friends but I said that it would be really hard for me to just be friends, at least right now. He was really upset that I said that we really werent friends before cause i guess he thought we were, but we really didnt hang out that much. He sounded so sad on the phone and kept saying he doesnt want to lose me and says that he gets attached with the people he has sex with. I dont want to waste any more emotion on him because he has really hurt me but I also want to try to be friends.
Should I give him a chance.? Do you think he is being being genuine and really wants to be friends or does he just think he will get the "benefits" again (which he wont).? My friends keep saying that if I just be cool around him, and not be so "available" he will want me back, like now that he cant have me, he will want me even more.?Health Question & Answer
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You said that he's hurt you before.? And that you weren't really friends even.? So why the desire to be friends with this guy now.? Certainly you have enough self worth to not let this guy use you. He clearly wants the benefits back, anyone who can get sex without effort (and yes, a relationship is considered effort) will try to keep getting it as long as possible! The longer you let this drag on, the more likely you are to get emotionally hurt. Find someone else. Someone who wants to spend their time with you and isn't afraid to call you his girlfriend.
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ease him out of your life slowly but firmly.He does not deserve you at all.he can go play his game on other girls and that is what he did in the past:Gets attached to the people he has sex with:let him find another fish in the sea.
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It's true that guys are more attracted to girls who aren't clingy. I'm leaning towards yes, but I'll say maybe. Are you hot.? This makes a difference. I suppose with FWB it doesn't matter either way, but guys also like girls who can turn their um, heads. Um, no pun intended.Health Question & Answer
He used you to have sex and thats awful. No more chances for him. and yes i no im a girl.Health Question & Answer