I Caught My Son Masterbating?!


Question: I Caught My Son Masterbating.?
help! what do i do i caught my son masterbating in his room. i closed the door really fast when i saw him doing that, it was yesterday we havent talked sinceHealth Question & Answer


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Dad you just need to get him alone or take him to the hardware store for a lock for his door you keep one key with you and he gets one. Let him know that the lock is for privacy and that it isnt to keep me totally out of the room. Apoligise for walkin in on him and let him know you will be knocking first from now on and if he was doing what you think he was doing it is okay and all dudes do it. if he has any questions dont be afraid to come talk toyou about it. finnish with your growing into a young man and give him a hug


curtdude Health Question & Answer

You should talk to him about it and let him know that it is normal.

also, let him know that you are sorry for opening the door unannounced. Set rules for privacy in the house, like knocking and it should go for you as well as him.

Answer any other questions he may have and make sure he knows he can come to you about any concerns.
This may actually be something that opens a door and gives him the feeling that you are open to talking to him. It may pay off in the future when he really needs to talk and knows he can count on you to be understanding.

Good luck.Health Question & Answer

You don't say if your a female or male or how old your son is. I caught my son masturbating once and not long after I decided to bring the subject up with him. By the way, I'm a male. I merely apologized for bursting in on him without giving him time to get himself together. I told him I was just surprised and that masturbating was a normal thing to do and he'll go on doing it all his life as needs be. I told him that I used to do it and I had good advice from an old man I once knew. He told me, "if you ask someone if they masturbate and they say 'yes I do' then they are stupid but if they say 'no I dont' then they are a liar". I found that to be a good summation of it all. I also asked my son if he had any questions about sex, etc he wanted to ask.
Your son is embarrassed as are you but you should bring it out into the open for a brief discussion between the both of you just to show you hold no funny feelings about it and you're okay with him and then it can be buried. Health Question & Answer

The most important thing is to let your son know that you entirely approve; that if he has any questions, you are willing to answer them, but that you won't embarrass him. Something like "Sorry I barged in on you the other day - you weren't doing anything wrong, in fact I'm delighted!".

Discuss how you can give him the privacy he needs - putting a lock on his door would be ideal.

If my parents had taken this approach when I was going through puberty, it would have transformed my life!

As you probably know, masturbating is very good for his health - see links below. Here is my favourite comment on the whole topic - be sure to read it ALL THROUGH, as the beginning is a bit confusing:

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My suggestion... Don't point it out as "bad". You should have the "talk" with him if you haven't already. How old is he.? Anyways there is nothing wrong with masturbating at whatever age he is at. Seriously, though, next time knock on the door and don't tell your wife, Because masturbating is a private activity that brings good health, education, and tons of other stuff. So just apoligize and make sure you knock next time -.-. And masterbating is spelled M-A-S-T-U-R-B-A-T-I-N-G Ok.? Lol. Hope this is useful. ^.^ Seriously....Health Question & Answer

Put a lock on the door.

Reassure him it's okay to masturbate, and that he knows if ever he needs to talk to you about it, that you are there for him. Don't leave a gulf of silence over it. Otherwise, he might be too ashamed to look you in the eye and ask *anything* in the future. Health Question & Answer

Its normal for boys to do this, you could put him off for life if you don't say something, leave a b ox of tissues in his room, and if he asks what there for, tell him that your sure he knows, but its not for his cold!, but next time close the door. don't make a big deal out of it.Health Question & Answer

Tell him it's normal, but make sure he knows that he should interact with girls in an appropriate way, not treat them like objects. Tell him it's all well and good to think like that when masturbating, but treat girls right and be respectful. Make sure he knows about safe sex, because he is starting to have that urge now.




PS: Try knocking next time.Health Question & Answer

LOL!

just act as if it didn't happen. trust me, no kid wants a ******* sit down talk about how masturbation is good n sht. It's just embarrasing that way. He knows more than you think, about everything. Just act cool, and act normally. Talk to him as much as you would usually, about normal stuff and it will all cool down. (Depending on the age as well; If he's 16-17Health Question & Answer

Try again LITTLE BOY. If you're an ADULT you'd know how to spell M...correctly. You don't so you're just a KID playing around.
Thanks for the 2 points and for the laughter at your expense.
I'm surprised those yahoos fell for your cow plop, but they're kids,too, so they wouldn't know how to spell..M...either.
Now, be a good little boy and go play with your GI Joe doll.Health Question & Answer

your son is growing up its part of life. tell him you didnt really see anythign and move on. theres nothing bad about it. if hes under 12-13 then be worried. if not. you should learn to knock before entering. haha i ahte when parents just barge into your room.Health Question & Answer

Well youre a guy so you should talk to him about it..man to man dont make it awkward for him just let him know that you understand why he's doing it and you went through the same events when you were his age...but you should knock next time just to be safe!!!!Health Question & Answer

like father, like son, make sure you lock your door, so he don;t walk in on you..nothing you can do to stop him..just be positive as a father, maybe talk to him about his body. and what not to do. Health Question & Answer

Just give him ''the talk''. If you already have, then just tell him that his hormones are going to want him to explore himself, and it is normal. Give him a couple of Playboy magazines and tell him that he'll be perfectly fine.Health Question & Answer

I think you should apologize, and assure him you will always knock in the future. I don't know if your his mom or dad, but either way I don't think you should ever mention it again. He'll get over it.Health Question & Answer

When you get the chance, when there is just you and him, say, "I'm really sorry about the other day, Son, I should have knocked". End of discussion.Health Question & Answer

if your a mom dont worry about it act like u didnt c it and if your dad just tlk to him about by saying idc if you do that cus i did it to and everyman has done itHealth Question & Answer

Lol. if i was you i would make light of it. Joke around with him dont be all serious and awkward cause that would suck for both of u.Health Question & Answer

you shouldnt do nothing....didnt you masterbate when u were young.? and it is normal dont make it a crime to him ......it is normal!!! let him do what he w\ants in private. Health Question & Answer

truthfully, don't worry about it all kids do it. not like the phrase that a child would use towards you they seriously all doHealth Question & Answer

there is no reason for you to be freaked out
unless you enjoyed watching
don't you masturbate
i certainly do!Health Question & Answer

Did you knock on the door, or was the door left open.?Health Question & Answer

maybe you guys should talk about it and maybe even beat the meat together.Health Question & Answer

Maybe you should knock next time.Health Question & Answer

holy crap!!!!
hahahahahahaha
i think you should tell him its normal first of all
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So say sorry and knock next time.
It's all part of life.
Nothing really needs to be said except it's ok.Health Question & Answer

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