Why do I have problem keeping an erection once I'm about to have sex?!
Question: Why do I have problem keeping an erection once I'm about to have sex.?
Hello, I'm a 20 year old guy and I'm in a long distance relationship with a girl for several months now. We visit each other once or twice a month and our relationship is working great! We both like each other (both physically and personality wise) and everything is going well except our sex life. Whenever we're making out before having sex I would be able to get an erection without a problem, but when we're about to have sex and I put a condom on I would lose the erection for some reason. I feel really bad because we can't have sex and since it's a long distance relationship we don't get a lot of opportunities to have sex... She also feels bad because she thinks it's her fault, but I disagree because she's doing everything right and I should be getting an erection.
First I thought it might be because the condoms are too tight, but I don't think that can cause me to lose my erection and not be able to get it back at all.
I think it happens because I feel under pressure somewhat because we won't have the chance to have sex again for a while, but I'm not too sure if that's the problem either.
I usually have no problem getting an erection but this makes me nervous. Could it be a health problem.? Any suggestions.?Health Question & Answer
First I thought it might be because the condoms are too tight, but I don't think that can cause me to lose my erection and not be able to get it back at all.
I think it happens because I feel under pressure somewhat because we won't have the chance to have sex again for a while, but I'm not too sure if that's the problem either.
I usually have no problem getting an erection but this makes me nervous. Could it be a health problem.? Any suggestions.?Health Question & Answer
Answers:
lol. u will b ok. what u should do sherlock, is be honest with your girl first. never leave a woman thinking she's the problem when it comes to getting an erection because the bat is in your hands. and u need to forgo that highschool play- dick up stick in fast slant right, because in all honesty u end up thinking about it too much and the mind wanders before it should wander ;). u know what, give her the rubber
(make sure she knows how 2 strap it on right or that long distance relationship might get real messy in nine months.) calm down. calm down. calm down. i don't know y people make sex seem like advanced calculus- don't rush ****. just be with your girl and do what u do 4play wise. let the first couple chub chubs pass-hell let her play with it while you make out- u can play with her tinytiny head too and make it grow as well. b4 u know it. BAM! ease into things bro- sex - not an automatic, u gotta ease into the gears. ps- (work up the right muscles while she's away-do some kegals, strengthen your core and arms and legs-ie the muscles u need to sex with. and u'll look like a champ in bed a couple months down the line)Health Question & Answer
(make sure she knows how 2 strap it on right or that long distance relationship might get real messy in nine months.) calm down. calm down. calm down. i don't know y people make sex seem like advanced calculus- don't rush ****. just be with your girl and do what u do 4play wise. let the first couple chub chubs pass-hell let her play with it while you make out- u can play with her tinytiny head too and make it grow as well. b4 u know it. BAM! ease into things bro- sex - not an automatic, u gotta ease into the gears. ps- (work up the right muscles while she's away-do some kegals, strengthen your core and arms and legs-ie the muscles u need to sex with. and u'll look like a champ in bed a couple months down the line)Health Question & Answer
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It is a very commen problem. When you are very nervous, you may get diserection just as you put on your condom or after a very short time it erected. My advice is, if you always feel nervous whenever you want to have sex with your girlfriend, take an anti importence herbal pills just haft an hour before you meet her. I often use procalisx each time I meet my first new friend. It works the best ! You can get it here:
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This is not your fault. You are right it is the pressure that is on you, plus over excitement, and the worry, "it's happened once, will it happen again this time.?" Take it easy next time the two of you are together, plan on not having full out intercourse, just fool around have fun, if it leads to more good, but probably best if it doesn't this time. When it is time to put on the condom, are you putting it on, or is she.? If you are, suggest that she does it, make it part of your foreplay, it can become part of the fun, a natural progression. Just remember this is a normal occurrence, it happens when you are under stress, not a thing is wrong with you. Just knowing that will make you feel a whole lot better. Take the pressure off, have fun and enjoy each other again, good luck!Health Question & Answer
No, not a 20 years old. Usually the only thing that will slow you down at 20 is intoxication or performance anxiety, sounds like big time performance anxiety to me!
You need to work on both relaxing together, don't focus on just the act of sex at all, you can't be under pressure to perform. You'll have to talk to her about this as well, typically if you both relax and do a good amount of foreplay as well as perhaps mutual oral stimulation and then just go with the flow the issue will vanish...The problem is that both of you will have to work on the issue together.Health Question & Answer
You need to work on both relaxing together, don't focus on just the act of sex at all, you can't be under pressure to perform. You'll have to talk to her about this as well, typically if you both relax and do a good amount of foreplay as well as perhaps mutual oral stimulation and then just go with the flow the issue will vanish...The problem is that both of you will have to work on the issue together.Health Question & Answer