Need a few guy opinions, please help!?!


Question: Need a few guy opinions, please help!.?
Ok, long story short, my child's father quit talking to us at ten weeks (I'm 22 now). He texted me back Wednes agreeing to meet Sunday (yesterday). At almost midnight he texted to see if I was still up, I ended up going over around 2:30 to talk. Well, he was in the middle of a poker game until 7:45 this morning (I was asleep in his bed, alone, I was exhausted). So when we finally talked he has the nerve to be mad that I've decided on a name, and am about 98% sure that's what I want!! He claimed he had been on the (MS Gulf) Coast looking for work. I know it wasn't for 12 weeks, and they have cell service down there! He didn't even remember the due date, which I told him like 10 times, but at least he's accepted that the baby IS his after 18 weeks or so of denying it.

Am I wrong for already having decided on a name.? I was never expecting him to show back up, and the name is my Papaw and step-dad's names, and they mean the world to me.

Is this even worth trying to work out before the baby gets here.?... I just feel like once I try to get him involved he'll bail again....Health Question & Answer


Answers:
First, a young pregnant woman like yourself should be home in bed at 2:30AM, not out and about at a poker game all night.
Second, this guy sounds like a huge, first class jerk. You AND your baby BOTH deserve better.
It is best to break all ties with him.

And third, tell him that as soon as he starts supporting you FINANCIALLY and EMOTIONALLY, only THEN will he have any right to discuss the name of your future child, and any other issues that relate to your child.
Good luck, sweetie.Health Question & Answer

If a guy stops talking and keeps denying that he is the baby daddy that would be enough for me not to be with him if I were in your shoes.

Would you really want a guy like that to be part of your life.? to be a father figure and role model for your kid. Sounds to me he is still childish and needs to mature.Health Question & Answer

Take a new phone number so he cannot text you any more:he will bail out again:he sounds like a spoiled kid to me.
You are way better of without him
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I agree totally with the most intelligent "Wonder Cat"Health Question & Answer

I'm not a guy, but I can still try help!

He can't pick and chose when a good time for him is to pop in and be a "dad" it's all or nothing! If he wants' to be there for you and support you and go to your doctor appointments, then I think he has full rights to agreeing on a name with you. But if he thinks he can come in whenever and have a say ... NO WAY!

As for being with him or letting him in your life - you need to decide what is best for you and your baby ... if he keeps coming and going it's going to be emotional for you and what if when your baby is 1 + and it sees it's daddy constantly showing up then leaving... that's going to be confusing for the little one.

Like I said before it's all in or all out ....Health Question & Answer



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