I need advice from guys!! My boyfriend didn't want to have sex with me?!


Question: I need advice from guys!! My boyfriend didn't want to have sex with me.?
Okay so my boyfriend of nearly 9 months visited me from England on friday and as I was so happy that he was with me and we went to the beach at night and had a great time, and we went back to my house(my parents were out of town) and I felt I was ready to have sex with him for the first time, and I told him to wait in the living room and went upstairs and lit candles and everything in my room, and led him to my bedroom. I went to my bathroom and took off my clothes and in my underwear I went to him and when I kissed him he kissed me back but went all rigid and pulled me off of him and put his jacket around me and kissed my forehead like i was his little sister or something!!!! wtf. i felt so humiliated that i said i wanted to be alone and called a friend over when he left.
i was crying the whole weekend and tomorrow i'm supposed to see him but i'm afraid he's going to tell me he's gay or something.
and even if he's not gay, is it wrong for me to make love to my boyfriend.?
i'm 16 and he's 17, and i think we're old enough to make that decision.


the reason why i think he's turned gay: he goes to Eton College, which is an all-boys boarding school......='(

and the thing is i don't think he's a virgin from what his friends told me...Health Question & Answer


Answers:
You should actually be really glad to have a boyfriend that turned down sex. That really shows he cares bout you and doesent just wanna get into ur pants!Health Question & Answer

haha, thats odd. usually the guys the first to want to have sex. maybe he is gay, is in another relationship you dont know about or doesnt picture you in that way. something is up with him, not you. he should have gave you a good explanation why he didnt want to. cuz for a guy saying no to sex is like someone saying no to eating or no to using the restroom. Health Question & Answer

Shut up, he isn't gay just because he didn't want to have sex with you. He just wasn't ready. Stop being so selfish, if he isn't ready for sex, he isn't ready for sex. You sound really immature.Health Question & Answer

Maybe hes just not ready.
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Kiss on the forehead, a classic.

He's mature.Health Question & Answer

He's probably waiting till he gets married...Depending on what state.? 2 men can get married.Health Question & Answer

I think you needed to drop hints about what you wanted, presenting him with a sexy, almost naked g/f without warning could have been too much.
Or maybe he has too much respect for you, to have sex before marriage, for idiotic religious reasons.
Or he may have had an instant orgasm the second he saw you and was embarrassed.?
Could be anything, but as an Eton guy he probably has had sex with guys, that does not mean he is gay, could be bi curious!Health Question & Answer

i think you were making this decision for both of you that it was time for intercourse,,, your going to have to decide together... does he even consider you to be "boyfriend/girlfriend" or did you make that decision too...
did you decide to do this because you want to make him be your boyfriend.? you said you think he's gonna tell you that he's gay, did you set this up to keep him from being gay.?
the whole thing sounds like your just wanting to claim him and in a very immature way...

good luck, and stop trying to control him.... Health Question & Answer

Just cause a guy goes to an all boys school does not make him gay. But if he is, isn't better to find out now rather then later after you have invested even more of an emotional attachment to him.?
Maybe he just wasn't ready to have sex with you. I think you need to talk with him, find out why he is reluctant and hopefully he will be honest with you, which is probably what you should have done before you offered yourself to him.
Gay, straight, ready or not ready, just talk to him and hopefully you can clear this up one way or another.Health Question & Answer

if only there were more girls like you thats all i can say.... god why do all the ******* get the amazing girl friends.?.?.? you did nothing wrong. Your amazing and yes he probbaly is gay if he turned that down.Health Question & Answer



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