Why does he masturbate every morning but will tell me he is too tired when I would like to have sex?!
Question: Why does he masturbate every morning but will tell me he is too tired when I would like to have sex.?
Ok, we have been together for a few years. We are in our mid to late 20s. We live together. We work the same days. I actually work more hours because I work earlier and usually later. I know he watches porn. I don't have a problem with him doing that but when he touches my computer way more than me, I have a problem. He isn't taking care of my business or trying to ring my bell. I have turned on my activity monitor on my computer to see how bad it is. It turns out, he gets up 20 minutes after I leave the house to masturbate. We have sex once maybe twice a week if I'm lucky. Sometimes, 2 in a month. Believe me, his love making skills are awful. There was a time in the beginning when he was the best I ever had. Now, I feel like a pin cushion because his "idea" of foreplay is poking me in the butt on Saturday morning when I'm still asleep. He complains that all I do is lay there, but I'm still half asleep when he decided we can have sex. I begged for sex every day for months. I wore lingerie, sexy outfits, got hotel rooms, and tried everything that I felt was around my comfort zone. I'm a good looking girl or so I thought. I feel ugly and unappreciated now. He tells me all I do is lay there. Its kinda hard to get in the mood when I have nothing to look forward too. I know its going to be awful and I wont be able to go back to sleep at 8am on a Saturday morning. I know its not going to last long enough to even think about making my body to start wanting to orgasm. I have tried everything to get him to sleep with me when I'm actually awake. I have tried to suduce him many nights for almost a year before I gave up. His excuse is he is too tired. I have tired things to help him sleep better so he would feel better rested so maybe I might get laid. I even get dressed in the dark and completely moved everything in the bathroom to the guest bathroom so he wouldn't complain about the light coming from under the bathroom door. So learning that he gets up 15 minutes after I leave to take care of his business, really pisses me off. I can't tell him I was checking up on the depth of his porn habits even though its my computer he pays more attention to and not me. I know he isn't cheating because I would know since we spend so much time together. I know he isn't gay because of the nature of his porn. I don't know what to do. I need someone to pay attention to my needs. I don't know how much longer I can go without a sex life before I run off and cheat on him. We have talked, I have begged, seduced, made fun of and told him he needs to see a doctor. What the hell else is there.?.?.?Health Question & Answer
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It sounds to me like sex is the least of your problems. Not only is he withholding sex but he is lying (I'm too tired) and acting selfishly. He is destroying your self esteem because he would rather please himself, and not let you know about it, than take the time and effort to please you. It's not so much the sex as it is what sex represents. At some point in time he decided to place his needs before your needs. That is not the foundation for a good relationship. In a good relationship sex should be the outward expression of an inward feeling. Not getting your r*cks off every time you feel the urge. You say porn isn't the problem but porn, by it's very nature, is selfish . You need to let him know that there is more at stake than a good sex life, it's your life together that's in jeopardy. I really hope the very best for you . You need to remember, regardless of how you're feeling about yourself, that you really do deserve the best ! Since you have tried everything it's time for him to start trying. Good LuckHealth Question & Answer
that other guy is right, he wants you to tie/cuff him up, make him give you the loveHealth Question & Answer
Every day is a new day. Every chance is a new chance. There is no magic bullet that will make everything the way it was.
Communication is always the first step. Talk to him about how you feel. Do not attack him! He will stop listening and get defensive. Tell him you need to talk to him; schedule a time that is good for him if you have to. Focus on you and your needs not on him or how he is acting.
Good luck.Health Question & Answer
Communication is always the first step. Talk to him about how you feel. Do not attack him! He will stop listening and get defensive. Tell him you need to talk to him; schedule a time that is good for him if you have to. Focus on you and your needs not on him or how he is acting.
Good luck.Health Question & Answer
I would tell him exactly what you know, why should you have to hide the fact you know.? Tell him exactly what you told us here and if he still doesn't want to take care of you my suggestion would be to just end the relationship rather than cheat on him. That way you won't have any regrets about cheating etc on him. Health Question & Answer
You haven't tried everything. Sounds to me like he wants to be dominated. You have to take control, call him nasty names and make him give it to you how you want it.. and when you want it and where you want it. It isnt his responsibility to make love to you.. because you just lie there and do nothing... get it. He is a very naughty little boy for watching porn and he has to be punished for it... so snap to it, mistress.Health Question & Answer
Tell him that you're not happy with the way that things are going and that you have needs, not to sound too cliche. If he doesn't appreciate that then take the computer away and treat him like a child. Tell him that you have no problem with the porn but you want to know what he wants and that you'll do anything he wants (that's if you want to do that). And also tell him to stop being such a hypocrite for making you get dressed in the dark, when he's the one who gets up fifteen minutes later to watch porn!
If you're not happy about this then you should sum up all of the other things. Are you happy about everything else.? Does he at least treat you better outside of the bedroom.? And if not, I would advise you to cut your losses now and find someone more appreciative of you.
Plus, your boyfriend sounds like a lazy teenage boy watching porn and yelling at you when you disturb him in the morning. Health Question & Answer
If you're not happy about this then you should sum up all of the other things. Are you happy about everything else.? Does he at least treat you better outside of the bedroom.? And if not, I would advise you to cut your losses now and find someone more appreciative of you.
Plus, your boyfriend sounds like a lazy teenage boy watching porn and yelling at you when you disturb him in the morning. Health Question & Answer
Tie this guys a s s up one night when you are in the mood and tell him this is your poking time. have high heels and a whip on hand in case he wants to get mouthy.lol. I would tell him exactly what you have said here and then I would make him eat my ponderosa. You are dressed up and all.lol I would say show him what you mean and what he will be missing if you decide to dump his patootieHealth Question & Answer