Help me control my premature ejaculation?!


Question: Help me control my premature ejaculation.?
I am in my tweens age group.Whenever I have sex with my gf I always have ejaculation just a few minutes after penetration.And I think that this is causing some trouble to my gf as she has never said to me that she ever had good orgasm. Even when I masturbate I come very early.This is a really embarrassing problem for me and is ruining my relationship grossly.kindly answer to my questions below ...

If this is premature ejaculation then can you please explain it.?

What causes it.?

Is there any good training program or book to control it QUICKLY .?Health Question & Answer


Answers:
From the problem you stated it appears that you are suffering from Premature Ejaculation.Many men suffer from it but most of them are shy to tell it publicly.I am happy that you have been frank enough to expose your personal problem to the world.I have done a bit of research and tried to write a lengthy response to all your questions.Hope this helps out many other men like you...

What is premature ejaculation.?

Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual problems. The condition is most often described as being an inability to delay ejaculation to a point when it is mutually desirable for both partners. The definition of when ejaculation is premature is subjective. While some men have trouble controlling their orgasm upon entry, others consider 5-10 minutes of copulation too little time. How long a man is able to last is not the important factor in diagnosing premature ejaculation. The crucial issue is if a man is satisfied with the length of coitus.



What causes premature ejaculation.?

Most men have experienced this problem at some time in their life. Premature ejaculation was once thought to be caused by drugs or certain infections such as urethritis, but popular wisdom suggests it is more psychological in nature. The exact cause of the condition, however, still remains a mystery.

Premature ejaculation often occurs during the first experiences with sex, and in this case is most commonly attributed to anxiety. The majority of men gradually learn to control their orgasm, and have no lasting effect. Some men will develop a longer-term anxiety toward sex, which can cause a prolonged experience with premature ejaculation.

Sexual behavior is also a factor. The longer the period since last ejaculating, the quicker young men typically reach orgasm. Younger men tend to ejaculate more quickly than older men, as experience seems to be associated with ejaculatory control.



Any good training book on premature ejaculation.?

Luckily I don't face this problem, thus I haven't personally read any book on premature ejaculation! But my cousin was suffering from this same problem and he was really worried about it. I had asked him what he did to control his situation. He said that he first tried to search the internet for getting free information on techniques to control the timing of ejaculation. He did find some techniques but could not follow them because there were no accurate instructions on how to practice them correctly(once he had even bruised his pennis while following a squeeze technique in faulty manner! ) So I suggest you to buy some good book on premature ejaculation rather than going for free methods and risking your parts. My cousin afterwards had bought an ebook called Ejaculation Trainer written by Matt Wutzke .He said that it had helped him a lot to extend ejaculation by an extra 15 minutes within 1-2 weeks and he has been improving since then. I first had thought that the book contained some advice on using drugs, but my cousin said that this book had techniques to treat PE naturally without any drugs. Now I don't want to appear like a sales-person promoting that book, thus I am not giving you any links to buy this book. Rather I searched for a review of this ebook on Google and luckily found an unbiased review of this book whose link I am posting in the sources box below.

Hope my answer helps and I wish you good luck to get over this problem like my cousin didHealth Question & Answer

most young guys in early sexual relationships with a partner have this issue and it is only with practise that they improve their performance
You are right though that sex with a partner should satisfy the needs of both parties and not just the guy
You say it happens when you masturbate also , so practise edging , which is fairly straightforward . You cease stimulation as you feel orgasm approach , then commence again after a little while . You do this stop/start for as long as you can and over time can build up to longer sessions
Similarly during intercourse , you can stop penetrative sex , and switch to using your hand or mouth to arouse your partner and this will lengthen the session . However if all else fails and you do orgasm too quickly , just continue stimulation of your partner and at some stage you will become erect again and 2nd orgasms will normally take longer anyway
Just keep practising , be honest with your partner about how you are trying to improve your technique , and above all just enjoy the time you have together rather than worry about ejaculation before she has reached orgasm Health Question & Answer

you could try the masturbate and stop Technic play with your penis more and more slowly as you approach orgasm then stop when it feels you are going to come wait a moment then start again this Technic helps you to recognises the feeling just before orgasm you then have to transfer the knowledge to your love making.
If your girl friend cannot get to orgasm before you it's not necessarily that you are coming to quick it could be your foreplay Technic which you need to improve on when we girl say we want a man that can last it does not mean that we want him to be on top for thirty minutes or so get the foreplay right and you should not need to be (on top ) for more than five to ten minutes max good luck happy humping ;-) x x x Health Question & Answer

book mike castleman's "great sex" he adress pe in it, and the two ways of trying to retrain your body.

that said, if your gf hasnt had a really good climax, you arent doing your job. 70+% of women cannot orgasm without clitoral stimulation. if you arent doing oral, using your fingers or a toy to give her a climax, you have a lot to learn about sex.Health Question & Answer

Hi Tamas

You need to relax more and have a lot more foreplay.
When you are both relaxed then have penetrative sex.
You will be fine.
Try not to think about the premature ejaculation though as the anxiety of that may affect your sexual performance.

Best wishes
AndyHealth Question & Answer

What the hell are you doing having sex anyways if you are only in your tween!. Have you ever thought that this is the problem. Health Question & Answer



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