Boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me?!
Question: Boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me.?
We're both in our 20's, we have been together for 9 months now....I love him dearly and he loves me...HOWEVER, he seems to not want to have sex with me...When we first met, we had sex at least every other day...now over the months it gradually decreasing...He says that he want to wait until he is ready because he can't get hard like that. I mean i can lay with the man butt naked and nothing happens...Now i done all i can to not take it personally, but i dunno guys...We only have sex when he wants it, but when I want to it pretty much doesn't happens...I offer to suck him, and he declines...i even tried to force my way down there this morning to get him aroused but he blocked it off and tried to changed the subject. I alreday talked about it to him but he makes light of the situation...what going on...could it be something else....?.?.? What are your thoughts...Health Question & Answer
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Sometimes guys have trouble getting it hard. It's a fact. And it's much more difficult if the guy feels pressure or feels he is disappointing someone. It can cause a panic reaction that actually makes the situation worse. This usually happens with older guys, but I know it happens sometimes in younger ones. Most guys are proud and don't want to admit it has happened to them. If it's happening frequently, he should probably see a doctor...or try viagra or something. But it would probably be counter productive for you to try to confront him on it as this might make it worse. Health Question & Answer
sounds like nothin's wrong w/him medically cuz he still can get it up when he wants to. sounds more like a control issue where he wants sex/relationship on his own terms. like he wants to call all the shots in the relationship. usually when guys start that crap, their usually cheating, too. this manipulative type of guy never changes, it just gets worse, where they start puttin in little insults in there, too with the cold act. Health Question & Answer
Everyone's saying he's cheating on you but its most likely not the case. For some guys and girls, when you've been going at it so much after a while it gets boring and the thrill is gone. He's probably been masturbating to internet porn and lost interest in having sex with you. Sorry but its probably the truth.Health Question & Answer
This guy is either cheating on you or he has some other hangup about having sex with you. Since he hasn't really been completely honest about what the problem is you are under no obligation to put up with this. You should move on and find someone who appreciates you. He is probably in dire need of some counselling. Don't put up with thisHealth Question & Answer
Honestly I think he has someone else going down there for him, and no longer feels that he needs your attention. In other words he is CHEATING on YOU :(
Sorry to say it.
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Sorry to say it.
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He is cheating or he is gay. Me and my boyfriend i've been dating for about as long as yours still does it twice a day and it's still great!!Health Question & Answer
yep he is defintely cheating babes time to start acting!!!Health Question & Answer
dont worry baby,if he wont i will, send me a email we can hook upHealth Question & Answer
same here, i am too fat.
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throw him outHealth Question & Answer
talk to him, find out whyHealth Question & Answer
Possible issues: too much porn, too much masturbation, he's cheating, worried about pregnancy. Or really stressed about his job - is he working.?
Take him for a walk, and tell me, "problems in a relationship are often reflected in the bedroom and since I still want you sexually I need to know what you think the problem is." Then let him talk, if he will. No matter what he says do not interrupt or defend yourself. If he gives you nothing to go on, say 'in order for me to be happy in our relationship I need to know and feel desired by you. Will you tell me what's really going on or is it time to end our relationship.?" He may opt to end it without giving you a reason, but at least you will know where you stand.
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Reading material to consider:
Relationship Rescue, Phil McGraw
Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
Are You the One for Me.? by Barbara DeAngelisHealth Question & Answer
Take him for a walk, and tell me, "problems in a relationship are often reflected in the bedroom and since I still want you sexually I need to know what you think the problem is." Then let him talk, if he will. No matter what he says do not interrupt or defend yourself. If he gives you nothing to go on, say 'in order for me to be happy in our relationship I need to know and feel desired by you. Will you tell me what's really going on or is it time to end our relationship.?" He may opt to end it without giving you a reason, but at least you will know where you stand.
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Reading material to consider:
Relationship Rescue, Phil McGraw
Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
Are You the One for Me.? by Barbara DeAngelisHealth Question & Answer
well the first things that pops up in my head is he is cheating and dont want to deal with you anymore. or he is gay either one he's gay man i would never refuse sex and i would never refuse head. so i think depending on how is acting towards you if he is trying to distance hisself from you then he dont want to be with you anymore.
the best thing i am telling you to do is ask him do you want to be with me if he thinks about it then say yes then walk away or even if he dont walk away if he has to think about it he dont and if he say no he dont. the only way to know if its true is if he say yes immediately without thinking about it and he looks sure. but anyway good luck and you can call me up i wont refuse sex nor head.Health Question & Answer
the best thing i am telling you to do is ask him do you want to be with me if he thinks about it then say yes then walk away or even if he dont walk away if he has to think about it he dont and if he say no he dont. the only way to know if its true is if he say yes immediately without thinking about it and he looks sure. but anyway good luck and you can call me up i wont refuse sex nor head.Health Question & Answer