Why does my dad think im fat?!


Question: Why does my dad think im fat.?
im am 14 and about 4feet 10in and about 95 pounds i dont think im am really overweight but my dad is always commeting on me like once i was out iding my bike and he turned to me and was like good u got some exercise u need i was so hurt i could not eat then when i dont eat any thing he is always like well you are just not hungry because u eat junk all day and that is not true at all! i love healthy food i really dont eat junk alot and i really eat very healthy wat should i do.?Health Question & Answer


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I think maybe you took what your dad said the wrong way. He may just be saying those things because he knows your body is still growing and its important for you to eat healthy and get exercise, it didn't sound to me like he was insinuating that he thought you were fat at all. But if it hurt your feelings i would just have a talk with him about that instead of letting it bother you...BTW....you are in no way shape or form fat!Health Question & Answer

his comment about you exercising because you need it probably wasn't aimed at you being fat, but the simple fact that we all need to exercise regardless of our weight for general fitness and he just thought it was good to see you getting exercise at last. this is further illustrated by the fact you are not able to eat your dinner in front of him and him assuming it's because you eat junk as plenty of teenagers do. My brother doesn't eat his dinner because of junk food and he isn't fat, so the comments have nothing to do with his weight. I think you are being paranoid and should just ignore him and concentrate on eating healthily and exercising.Health Question & Answer

At 14 your body must be going through some pretty big changes. If you are a girl, you are becoming more curvy and your dad may be uncomfortable with your changing body. The next time he makes one of these statements tell him (calmly) that you feel bad about yourself when he makes these comments and that you asked the school nurse (or whomever) and your weight is fine.

If he feels that you aren't healthy, ask him what he thinks a healthy diet is. He may not be seeing clearly what you are eating.

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that sounds exactly like my dad! but dont end up like me because im in treatment for eating disorders now.

listen to me because i can totally relate! you are taking it the wrong way. your day doesn't think your fat. he just wants you to be healthy. it has nothing to do with your image. he just wants you to grow up healthy and strong.

listen again: its not about your image!!!!!! hes just worried about you and thats how he expresses it. he's a guy. and guys arent talkers. especially if they are like your dad and my dad!

dont make the mistakes i did. you are at a good weight and im sure your beautiful! don't take your dad's words personally. he loves you.

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I am the same age and same hight as you. and I am 5 pounds more than you and i don't look fat. idk why your dad is saying that. it's really mean. don't listen to him. ignore him. lol.
Don't starve your self either. I know people who do
that and they get really sick.
I'm sorry your dad does that, and I hope this helps. Health Question & Answer

it sounds to me like he is not calling you fat, just saying you are unhealthy. everyone needs excercise and he didnt rly call you fat he just said that it was good you got the excercise you needed. and my parents tell me i eat junk all the time and im underweight. it doesnt mean your fat. dont owrry your def. not fat at 95 lbs. dont listen to him. be a kid and keep living.
if it rly bothers you, comfront him. whats the worst that can happen.?

p.s. no joke, if anyone tells your fat, your not.Health Question & Answer

Parents make mistakes all the time. It sounds like he is making a big one. I hope that you know better about yourself. You sound just right. If you don't eat you will make your self get fat from the eating and the not eating. He may mean that you need excercise because it keeps you healthy both mind and body.Health Question & Answer

Some parents have strange ways of showing how they love their children. Many Asian parents "put down" the kids to "build them up". I am not suggesting that your father is doing that, or your family falls into this stereotype.

You're old enough to speak for yourself. If you find it difficult, then print this page (including you question) and tape it to his door.
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Wow, that's really rude. I would say something back, but don't be all smartass about it because he might snap back at you. Just be like, "You know Dad, it really hurts my feelings when you make comments about my body like that." I don't think your fat at all, you sound average if not thin. Or talk to your mom about it too.

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Your dads not a jerk he's just being brutally honest..Your generation spends a lot of time on the computer and playing video games and stuff, so he was making a point about your exercising...You do need it!!! Everyone does!!! Don't take offense to it...maybe he has good points but stinks at communicating! Talk to him discuss it..maybe he'll go out of his way to not hurt your feelings Health Question & Answer

Your not fat at all don't let it bother you. Sometimes people don't think they just say. He probably don't understand the effects things like that have on younger people, you got a lot of growing still to do so brush it off.Health Question & Answer

tell him he's hurting ur feelings. 95 lbs is not fat by any means. parents are always worried about their kids well being. maybe he went thru overweight times or some one close to him did & it affected him negatively. he prolly doesn't realize he's hurting u so much, TELL HIM!Health Question & Answer

ignore him. what a butthole. ur not fat. just stick to what you know. ask like soo many people on here, im sure they dont think ur fat. believe me.Health Question & Answer

hmmmmm Thats rude for your dad your weight is perfect for age and height! Both healthy and junk food is good as long not to much junk food. If it helps Im 12 5 foot 4 and 112 pounds
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No offense but you dad sounds like a jerk. Ignore him your weight is fine. Take a look at him, i bet hes not perfect either. Health Question & Answer

Do you think your fat.?

95 pounds isn't much for a 14 year old. I think you should just ignore him =)Health Question & Answer

Just eat your veggie and exercise and forget what he say. Health Question & Answer

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maybe he is saying that so he can have your portion of the serving for dinnerHealth Question & Answer

ok firstly your not fat your fine for you age and height, and dont let him make you think differently
i knows its really out of order for him to say that stuff to you even if you were "fat" there would still be no reason for him to be abussive about it
but something might be happening atm, he might have troubles of his own and taking it out on you without realising what an effect its having
try telling him or something that you want him to stop it b/c its upsetting you and is not fair

hope he gets the message to back off Lol. if not show him this and well sort him out x) Lol
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My dad does the exact same thing! I'm 14 as well, 5'9" and 155 lbs. He's always like "You're overweight. You need to go on a diet. You eat too much crap" (even though he eats 3x more than I do and is just being hypocritical). I usually tell him my doctor says I'm normal for my age, height, and gender, and it's not his place to criticize what I look like. He may be able to express concern as a parent, but to flat out say 'You need to lose weight' is rude and only accomplishes harsh feelings between the two of us, lowered respect for him as my father, and lowered self-esteem for myself as a teenage. As parents they should be encouraging me, not adding ammunitition to something I'm already insecure about. (though I know I'm not fat, it's just a typical teenage thing).

Maybe try this with your father. I honestly think, once they reach a certain level of disrespect to you as a person, they give up their right to be respected as an adult. Although I do caution, this method with probably cause an argument and possible punishment. But I think it's better to speak your mind.

I hope this helps. Feel free to chat.
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