Why do people give fat girls mean/ugly/weird looks at the gym?!


Question: Why do people give fat girls mean/ugly/weird looks at the gym.?
Okay, I'm a fatty and I'm working out trying to be healthier and people give me these looks like, "What do you think you're doing here.?". It's not everyone, but I definitely get the looks. This stick skinny girl, who was working out tonight, must have thought I was disgusting or something. She kept giving me these side glares. You know, you look back at them and smile and they pretend they never saw you.?
I'm assuming that the people who look at me that way are the ones who think that people who are overweight/obese are just disgusting and nasty. Is that assumption wrong.? Why would they give me those looks if I'm trying to better myself.? Am I supposed to exercise in private.? I'm self-conscious enough without hateful people loathing my existence.
Any other fatties know what I'm talking about.? Any skinnies find themselves appalled looking at the fatties burning calories.?
What's the deal.?
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I watched this documentary about obesity..

People are apparently usually afraid of fat people because they know it could happen to them..

They're not usually disgusted by -you- but by -the idea- of getting fat.

People seem to dislike quite a bit what they're afraid of.

SOME brain-washed people would take one look at you and think "lazy", "smelly", "uneducated", "unhealthy", "low self-esteem", "has no chance", "illogical", "hysterical", "going to die young".. but then there are others that would look at you and just see another person who could be just about anyone trying to get fit.

I've always fallen under the category of "skinny", but usually it's been "super skinny". It's my genes, I think.

I have and have had quite a few overweight and obese friends. In highschool I would defend them if it was something people picked on them regularly about. I've never been even -close- to disgusted by overweight folk just because they were overweight.

I will admit, though, that it's a fear of mine of becoming overweight. It's always in the back of my mind whenever I eat too much or eat the wrong things. It's also in my mind now because I'm pregnant and so obviously I've been gaining weight.

Plus, my friends always used to tell me that age would eventually catch up with me... So I've made secret, inner, promises to myself. Promises that I hope I keep. These promises are things like, "If I ever get above a size 8 under the age of 50, I will immediately step up my exercise routine and cut out junk food!" I don't know if these are healthy promises or not.

The woman who was giving you dirty looks perhaps gives everyone dirty looks. Or maybe she was having a bad day. Or perhaps she is a brain-washed |3itch. Who knows.. .?

In highschool and in some of college if someone was bothering me with a mean spirit or look, I usually made an effort to be extremely nice to that person. Sometimes it irritated them highly that I didn't care if they were jerks or not, and othertimes I found out the person wasn't being mean or giving angry looks because of me at all -- because they immediately changed attitudes/facial expressions when I was nice or spoke to them nicely..

Next time this woman gives you a dirty look just say something nice to her. Give her a compliment. Be like "Excuse me, I don't mean to bother you but, I'd just like to say that I LOVE that digital watch you have! Where did you get it.?" or give her some other compliment -- but make sure you actually THINK that about her or it will be easy to see through and she'll think -you- are the one who is being rude/mean.

You'll find out whether or not she's just a |3itch or if she just randomly gives people dirty looks by her responses and behavior after the compliment.

Who knows, maybe you'll be getting yourself an exercise partner! Course, maybe you'll be finding yourself someone new on this planet to throw mental daggers at for a little while.

Hahaha.

Good luck with working out and losing weight!

And as for people who want to put you down.. kill em with kindness ;)
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I know what you mean
i go to the gym everyday im not like super skinny or anything hell no lol

when I see people that are obese I smile and it makes me happy that they are trying to change their lifestlye
I love talking to people at the gym and see how their progress is

I applaud ppl for going to the gym cause they are trying to improve their life :)

just my opinion lolHealth Question & Answer

Why does it matter.? Of course we know people do that, and we know they're probably insecure and overly critical. Some people who think you're lazy or disgusting keep it to themselves so don't assume that. That person is probably just insecure. I think you just felt like ranting because this incident bothered you.Health Question & Answer

I know the look your talking about. I get it and I ain't fat or ugly. Girls like that just do it. I think they do it for two reasons primarily because they feel bad inside and because they are jealous of everything. Just ignore them and be proud of who you are and what your trying to accomplish. There is no need to hide because of brats like that!Health Question & Answer

I knew a fat girl who weighed around 300 pounds. She was in the gym everyday, doing cardio for an hour. She dieted very strictly, and in about a year she got her weight down to 145 pounds. I was so proud of her and happy for her. I never gave her nasty looks when she was fat.Health Question & Answer

Some people are just ignorant.
Good for you for wanting to improve your health, don't let those people get to you.

I was once 60 lbs. heavier than I am now, so I do know what you're talking about, just ignore them. Take care, and best of luck.Health Question & Answer

I don't know why people do this, it doesn't make sense, i guess it's because people are insensitive and judgmental.Health Question & Answer

Because people are a**holesHealth Question & Answer

I think this is how you feel about yourself. Do not transfer your thoughts about yourself onto others it is not fair. I have had people make this statement many times. The people that are being accused of this are usually always hurt and try to figure out what they do to make someone like you think this. The skinny girls are Always just as self conscious as you are. They actually feel more pressure than ones with the weight problems.
Pay attention to yourself only.
Do not look for approval of others.
Do not assume it has anything to do with you.
We all have ego problems.
Focus on yourself and no one else

Set your intention for everyday, to let everyone you meet be better for having met you and to love yourself.
Do this and the occasional unkind person will not effect you.

You have a choice to be a victim or a victor. Health Question & Answer

How can you knock anyone working out. Geez. The ones that get me are the anorexic women who go on the cardio machines for hours on end and fall off in exhaustion and nobody at the Y says a thing. That is really gross.

Don't worry about what anybody thinks, and good for you for working out! Health Question & Answer


- You are on the right path. Believe in it strongly and stay strong cause you will be judged a lot. That's life. If you come through it you will be a stronger & fitter person.

- Next time, someone gives you those eyes, go upto them and smile and talk in a friendly positive way. They are not feeling guilty for what they are doing cause they don't know you. So get to know them.

- Explore the mental aspects of change. Read Anthony Robbins etc.

- These might be negative internal frames which you need to eliminate.
Look into positive affirmations, EFT etc

- There is a saying that "the mind finds what it looks for"
think about this really hard and understand it.

- You are adopting other people's views
'you are a fatty'
'you are disgusting and nasty'
'hateful people loathing my existence'
seeing people in a fatty/skinny way

you need to get these negative things out of your head.
also constantly keep track of other negative stuff and get it out of your system

- Lastly, define your goal and imagine in it the future
see it clearly as you can.
The mind works very well if you can give a goal it can visualize

wish you luck!




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Hi,

I am so sorry about what you went through. I am a fatty too. I am not talking about someone who is 10 pounds over weight and thinks they are fat. I really am a fatty. I am also self concious. I went to a gym for a while. There was lots of people there men and woman. I really didn't notice anyone giving me looks. I really wouldn't worry about it the lady was probably just not a nice woman. Some people are like that to everyone. I will tell you don't worry about other people. I do understand that is easier said then done though. Good for you for working out. Hey if that lady is behind you again and she is being mean just let one rip. Give her something she has a right to be disgusted about. Then turn around and laugh and say how did you like that. Sorry I know that is bad. LOL!!!!!!!!

Love,
MichelleHealth Question & Answer



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