Why do I always need attention from guys?!

Question: Why do I always need attention from guys.?
I am really ashamed of being like this. I am a relatively normal girl, I am in college, and I always need attention from guys. This is this reason I go out and party sometimes three days a week. I feel really anxious and sad if men don't pay attention to me. If I am not in a relationship I feel so empty and much more sad than when I am in one. I can't just chill and be happy being single. The only thing I like about being single is going out and having guys hit on me. When they don't I get upset. I want to know why i am this way. I don't like it at all. I never want to seem slutty or easy, which is why I don't sleep around, but I always need the emotional or verbal attention. I heard that girls whose father weren't close to them while growing up have this problem. Is this really true.? My parents were divorced and I didn't get to see my dad that much. I just want to be able to fix this problem and live freely and happily without needing guys all the time.

I don't know what to do to change it.Health Question & Answer

My ex wife and sisters all had the same problem, and sure enough none of them had a father around. I've also noticed that girls that don't feel attractive have the same difficulty.

I think you have to find things that define YOU - other than boys. If you're like most of us, you're very busy working or relaxing, but what are you doing for yourself.?

Hobbies, arts, yoga, whatever floats your boat. Just remember, it should feel good just for the sake of doing it. If you're contemplating how others like what your doing (i.e. the shopping hobby), then you're feeding the same old problem.

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Its usually something that happened in the past that makes you need to feel exexptance from guys. it could have been anythingHealth Question & Answer

i think it might be A.D.D (Attention deficit disorder )Health Question & Answer

To Jackie: How does this relate to ADD in any way at all.?


To asker: What you're describing is very normal. You're just an extroverted girl who wants to be appreciated by those around you. The only problem that you might have is if you need the attention in order to function normally. There is a diagnosis called Narcissistic Personality Disorder to define this problem, however you don't seem to fit the attitude of someone with it.

A person with NPD is most often seen as bitchy, controlling, demanding of attention and believing that they are the most important people on earth. Considering that you are going on Yahoo answers to ask why you need attention, it doesn't seem like you fit this label.Health Question & Answer

"I didn't get to see my dad that much"

There's your answer! You answered your own question :)
Good insight!

Look at the positive aspects of yourself and learn to be more confident. You dont need a guys attention to feel complete. whenever you are around guys and needing their attention...just keep thinking that you are only doing this to fill the void of no father around as a child. then it will reassure yourself that THATS the only reason you are doing this. thinking about this as you are acting this way may slow you down.

Good Luck! You are strong and beautiful!Health Question & Answer

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