He thinks I'm Strange, but he doesn't know about my "issues".?!


Question: He thinks I'm Strange, but he doesn't know about my "issues"..?
I think I am messed up, I drove a guy away with all my confusion and uncertainty.. And I KNOW guys hate a complicated girl and i wish i wasn't, but I think i gave him mixed signals..all due to my own confusion..
I have been raped twice in my past, I wanna have a relationship soo bad and have been able to trust this guy, but I was scared. I told him I was afraid of getting hurt.. Then I made the "mistake" --- Next day.I told him I don't think we should talk anymore, I was so confused about the whole situation, I needed to think, so i said THAT and immediately regreted it.
I feel like i'm living in a whirlwind of confusion and fear..

I apologized 3x to him thru voicemail the next day, i sent him a text and an instant message to tell him i'm sorry, i was confused and scared and didn't mean that.. He didn't reply to either one..

Just today I find out he told my brother in law "she's soo strange, she likes me one minute and not the next (i know he's right).. she confuses me, she's different than any girls ive ever spoken to, i've never met a stranger girl"..

I feel like crap.. I wanna fix this situation so bad, I DONT want him to think i'm some WEIRDO.. Help pleaseeHealth Question & Answer


Answers:
You are not messed up. First of all you need to give yourself permission to have feelings, like being scared ( I know I would be after 2 rapes) Maybe your first step is to go see a counselor or therapist. This will probably help build your trust & confidence in your ability to make your own decisions. Explain to him that you have a really hard time letting yourself get too close to others & why, but that you really like him & want to work on it with him, if the feeling is mutual he will understand....Health Question & Answer

maybe you should consider telling him what has happened in the past and that you're not really coping with everything, but you are trying really hard to make this work .. maybe you should talk to someone about what happened and stuff .. could help sort out your issses .. good luckHealth Question & Answer

write him a letter explaining everything
also tell him it was out of confusiion.
GIRLS GET CONFUSED TOO.Health Question & Answer

leave him a voicemail explaining your whole situation and why you were acting that way.Health Question & Answer

tell him the honest truth and he'll probably understand.Health Question & Answer

You just asked this at least once.

Seriously, see someone. There is not an easy fix for this.

Good luck.Health Question & Answer

he would def. understand if u told him wut happened. or why u said itHealth Question & Answer



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