A question for guys on girls and weight.?!
Question: A question for guys on girls and weight..?
I want everyone to be COMPLETELY honest =)
I've been in this situation and I want to know:
If you met a girl, became best friends with her, talked about dating, felt like she had every quality you wanted, felt like you were meant to be with her, cared about her more than you could even comprehend yourself, had a relationship so perfect that it stunned everyone around you, really believed she could be someone you could one day end up with, would you decide not to date her because of her weight alone because you were worried what others would think. I know the answers will possibly vary depending on the age (high school students compared to adult men) and I want every aspect.
(I'm 20, he's 18)
He said all the positive things, initiated all the thoughts of dating and ended up backing out because of my weight. I'm big but I'm not huge and even with my weight, I'm very pretty. I'm outgoing. My weight actually has no affect on any aspect of my life at all. I go and do and run around like the average 4 year old. We were INSANELY close and so perfect. You have no idea. It was amazing. Truly, it was. The differences in life style have a lot to do with it. I don't know if it's just a high school deal. He can't let me go, even still. But he doesn't want to commit. He says he feels so much for me that it scares him and that at the time (and it's been a long while) my weight didn't so much bother him but he's worried what other people think. And that's the worst thing he has EVER told me. He seriously is one of the most loving kind-hearted guys I've ever met and anyone can vouch for that. It's shocking he would even think the way he does on this and actually say it to me.
Anywho, sorry this is long. Opinions please. Thanks guys =)
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I've been in this situation and I want to know:
If you met a girl, became best friends with her, talked about dating, felt like she had every quality you wanted, felt like you were meant to be with her, cared about her more than you could even comprehend yourself, had a relationship so perfect that it stunned everyone around you, really believed she could be someone you could one day end up with, would you decide not to date her because of her weight alone because you were worried what others would think. I know the answers will possibly vary depending on the age (high school students compared to adult men) and I want every aspect.
(I'm 20, he's 18)
He said all the positive things, initiated all the thoughts of dating and ended up backing out because of my weight. I'm big but I'm not huge and even with my weight, I'm very pretty. I'm outgoing. My weight actually has no affect on any aspect of my life at all. I go and do and run around like the average 4 year old. We were INSANELY close and so perfect. You have no idea. It was amazing. Truly, it was. The differences in life style have a lot to do with it. I don't know if it's just a high school deal. He can't let me go, even still. But he doesn't want to commit. He says he feels so much for me that it scares him and that at the time (and it's been a long while) my weight didn't so much bother him but he's worried what other people think. And that's the worst thing he has EVER told me. He seriously is one of the most loving kind-hearted guys I've ever met and anyone can vouch for that. It's shocking he would even think the way he does on this and actually say it to me.
Anywho, sorry this is long. Opinions please. Thanks guys =)
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Uh! Oh! Poor soul is one of those whose life is governed by what others say or think of him. Let him go. He will never change. Find someone that appreciates you for who you are - not who THEY want you to be! It's a shame, with all the other good qualities the jerk has that he turns out to be so shallow One day the poor sap will look back & can't figure out where he went wrong - but - it will be too late then. Drop him like a hot rock. You go, Girl!Health Question & Answer
Wow the guy sound like a real douche. A guy that truly loves you, love ALL you and that includes your body, not just little pieces and bits of it.Health Question & Answer
if he liked you enough wouldn't he not care what other people thought.? just saying. Health Question & Answer
Wow.Health Question & Answer
Im 19 female. My best friend was on ur side of the fence and im on his. He was not so goodlooking but is the best person I've ever known. He loved me I couldn't date him. He does care what other people think and that not a crime coz I was the same but he will care later when he realises u were probably the best choice. On his side, take whatever he is offering if its just friendship, accept that otherwise ull drive him away like my friend did to me. Maybe he'll see differently later.? By the sounds, ur a very decent person. GoodluckHealth Question & Answer
are you sure he's nice.? because if he really loved you he would'nt care what others thought. He would love you for your personality not appearance. I say dump him. he's not worth it and you can get a better guy. He'll be cuter, cooler and when he's with you he cares only for you and not for anyoneelse around him. believe me, that guy your with now will hurt you later. experience! : )Health Question & Answer
You don't want to know what I desire personally. And I don't want to be "branded" as insensitive either simply because of my personal prefferances. I will say I could care less what people think. My prefferences are just my own.
But to answer the rest of your question from my opinion I think even if someone doesn't think you're attractive to start off from, they can learn to like you. And it really does vary from one guy to the next. Yet this guy you're crushing on doesn't feel for you the same way you feel for him. At least based off how you describe your relationship with eachother. Now he may very well like you, trust you, admire you and wish the best for you. But if he's worried about dating you on looks alone simply because he's too much of a panzy to worry about what others think, then he is not in love with you. At least not the way you want him to be. And believe me, regardless of a few stuburn men's opinions there are LOTS of guys out there who could treat you far better, the way you deserve to be.
If I were you I would try to accept the fact this guy doesn't like you the same way you do him. And if you find yourself unable to let go of these feelings then its time to move on. Maybe if you do, he'll realize he really doesn't care what others think and realize what a wonderful thing he's missing out. But don't wait for him either. You have to live your own life and should not have to wait on some guy who's too shallow to realize what a good woman he's got.Health Question & Answer
But to answer the rest of your question from my opinion I think even if someone doesn't think you're attractive to start off from, they can learn to like you. And it really does vary from one guy to the next. Yet this guy you're crushing on doesn't feel for you the same way you feel for him. At least based off how you describe your relationship with eachother. Now he may very well like you, trust you, admire you and wish the best for you. But if he's worried about dating you on looks alone simply because he's too much of a panzy to worry about what others think, then he is not in love with you. At least not the way you want him to be. And believe me, regardless of a few stuburn men's opinions there are LOTS of guys out there who could treat you far better, the way you deserve to be.
If I were you I would try to accept the fact this guy doesn't like you the same way you do him. And if you find yourself unable to let go of these feelings then its time to move on. Maybe if you do, he'll realize he really doesn't care what others think and realize what a wonderful thing he's missing out. But don't wait for him either. You have to live your own life and should not have to wait on some guy who's too shallow to realize what a good woman he's got.Health Question & Answer
i would not have intimate relations with an overweight girl.
overweight people disgust me because it's so easy not to be overweight, all you have to do is jog 2-3 times per week and watch what you eat, it's not that hard, i do it.
If you can't take care of your own body and commit to yourself, how can you commit to me.? that's how i would think about itHealth Question & Answer
overweight people disgust me because it's so easy not to be overweight, all you have to do is jog 2-3 times per week and watch what you eat, it's not that hard, i do it.
If you can't take care of your own body and commit to yourself, how can you commit to me.? that's how i would think about itHealth Question & Answer