Is it normal that a 38 year old man does not have much of a libido?!


Question: Is it normal that a 38 year old man does not have much of a libido.?
My boyfriend and I only have sex about once a week and sometimes it even stretches to a week and a half. He's 38 and he is overweight. He's working on losing weight. He is 240 and 5"10. I know he doesn't feel entirely comfortable with his body and I don't either, but how could he not want more sex. I mention it all the time and tell him that I want him to ask for it more as I don't want to be the only one initiating it but still he doesn't initiate much at all. We live together and go to bed at night and all we do is give each other a lousy little kiss and go to sleep. Sometimes we fool around and touch each other but even that doesn't happen more than once or twice a week. I am discouraged as I am 32 and would love to have sex everyday or every 2 days. Do you think this sounds normal.?Health Question & Answer


Answers:
Well, by that age its normal for libido to decrease a little bit. But no sex at all.?.? That's a little strange.

I seriously think working out could do wonders for him. Being overweight can really put a damper on moral concerning sex.

No only does he probably feel sex concious about his weight, but its also very physcially demanding on an overweight person to have sex. Heck, I'm not even overweight but sex is still a challenge for me sometimes. It requires a lot of movement and energy, and can be physcially draining espechally if you aren't in good shape.

Honestly, I think starting an exercize regime would do wonders. You can work out with him too, which is a great motivator for him (not to have to do it alone) and a good bonding expierence for you both. It will boost his self image to know he is working for a healtheir body, and it will give him more energy and endurance for bedroom activities. also, studies show that regular exercize increases libido.

Present this idea in a non-threatening way- don't make him feel like you want him to work out because he is "fat". Just suggest the idea non-chalantly, and let him know you want to work out with him so he doesn't feel alone.

If this doesn't work, I'd suggest he see a doctor. There could be some more serious health or emotional reasons why he doesn't want sex.

Best of luck!!! I hope you two can resolve this problem.Health Question & Answer

Is he on an anti-depressant or any other meds.?Health Question & Answer

it' anormal
if i'm be you
i'l do it everyday!Health Question & Answer

You're gonna have to make him understand that sex has a high significance for you. What does he find important in the relationship that he gets from you.? What if you didn't find that particular thing interesting and refused to do it.? How would he feel then.? He'd probably want to leave you or complain he's neglected and whatnot...well that would be the same case here.

Maybe he is just shy about this or some men dont a drive,
Try getting someone into mood, in opposition to randomly saying it out of the blue.Yes there are guys with a low sex drive and here is how I know.
I have been doing some research on this so might be able to help.
Viagra is a member of a group of drugs called PDE-5 inhibitors and these are oral tablets taken to help induce and erection in men.
There are 3 main drugs, Viagra, Cialis and Levitra and they all have different benefits. Levitra for example works in as little as 10 minutes so you can be spontaneous. Cialis stays in your body all weekend to help you get and erection when the moment arises. Depending on the severity of the erectile dysfunction the tablets work on 90% of men. They are not aphrodisiacs or stimulants, you need to be aroused but often the idea of what is about to happen will of course, heighten the mood. There are a few resources on the net you might like to try - offers info on how to deal with ED and what treatments are available. and gives a better description of how the drug works for men with ED.

Hope this helps.


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